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Advice on co-dependency in a relationship and not coming off as so needy?
So My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months now, we basically have been spending everyday together usually driving around hanging out with friends, running errands, visiting family, etc... He recently got layed off a week ago and I've noticed he doesn't want to hangout as much... Which I can understand its taken a toll on him.. I think I've become too used to hanging out and doing everything with him though and this whole hanging out less is getting to me, and I don't want to be that girl whos up her boyfriends butt all the time sounding all needy. The thing with me though is I have major seperation anxiety and depression, whether its with him or anyone I just don;t like being alone in my thoughts...especially not having a job or going to school right now.. so I end up racking my brain with all these crazy thoughts...such as "hes sick of me" "he doesn't care" and when I come to him about my problems and how I feel he tends to just get really annoyed by it....So I'm looking for some advice on co dependency in a relationship and what I can do to not be coming off as so needy. I want it to be the other way around actually where instead of me always waiting around for him to come see me, I want him to wait around to be able to see me...like actually miss me like I always do him. Just don;t want to be so weak...ya know? Also We've been having this problem where we hangout ALOT but its always more friendly then boyfriend girlfriend lovey dovey...we have sex once a week...and I wish there was more compassion. I mention it all the time...but things haven't changed. I love him alot, I don't want to become distant :-/
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Give him space. As hard as it is. It will give you time to step back too (if you don't on your own now you will be forced to eventually when he doesn't talk to you anymore!) . Plus you never know.. maybe you'll see there's more to life than obsessing over a boy who doesn't like you as much as you want him to. Release some of your hold and let time ride it out. Relax. Things will be okay. Oh yeah... and pray . __|__
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