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I'm a very cynical person. I ALWAYS think that people are just selfish and manipulative. This is obviously a problem because it prevents me from being close with others. Also, it's the cause of most of the fights between me and my boyfriend. How do I fix this? I don't want to think so badly of everyone all the time...I just have this constant "everyone is out to manipulate me" idea. How do I stop thinking this way and become more trusting of people? I just want to be happy and assume the best of people. Thank you for any advice. (link)
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Give advice to someone on here. By doing so you might see how you are not being selfish/manipulative but quite the opposite. I'm giving you sincere advice and that is not selfish or manipulative. Not everyone is selfish/manipulative.
Next time you get worked up about a situation.. before reacting, find yourself a quiet spot and reflect on the situation. Write notes, draw pictures, think of what music comes to mind, watch tv, cook, do some pushups, go for a run. Take into account everything. Wake up 15 minutes early every day to be alone and meditate. Pray about your desire to be less cynical. Ask God to open your eyes and hearts to people who are good-hearted and loving and self-less so that you will see the benevolence (goodness) in these people.
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So My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 months now, we basically have been spending everyday together usually driving around hanging out with friends, running errands, visiting family, etc... He recently got layed off a week ago and I've noticed he doesn't want to hangout as much... Which I can understand its taken a toll on him.. I think I've become too used to hanging out and doing everything with him though and this whole hanging out less is getting to me, and I don't want to be that girl whos up her boyfriends butt all the time sounding all needy. The thing with me though is I have major seperation anxiety and depression, whether its with him or anyone I just don;t like being alone in my thoughts...especially not having a job or going to school right now.. so I end up racking my brain with all these crazy thoughts...such as "hes sick of me" "he doesn't care" and when I come to him about my problems and how I feel he tends to just get really annoyed by it....So I'm looking for some advice on co dependency in a relationship and what I can do to not be coming off as so needy. I want it to be the other way around actually where instead of me always waiting around for him to come see me, I want him to wait around to be able to see me...like actually miss me like I always do him. Just don;t want to be so weak...ya know? Also We've been having this problem where we hangout ALOT but its always more friendly then boyfriend girlfriend lovey dovey...we have sex once a week...and I wish there was more compassion. I mention it all the time...but things haven't changed. I love him alot, I don't want to become distant :-/ (link)
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Give him space. As hard as it is. It will give you time to step back too (if you don't on your own now you will be forced to eventually when he doesn't talk to you anymore!) . Plus you never know.. maybe you'll see there's more to life than obsessing over a boy who doesn't like you as much as you want him to. Release some of your hold and let time ride it out. Relax. Things will be okay. Oh yeah... and pray . __|__
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I'm a highschool student and this year has been rough for me. I have very few friends. I have low confidence, low self-esteem, and i am really insecure. I'm always feeling like I'm being judged by everyone I walk by. I feel like I'm not important and no one cares about me or of me. I don't feel accepted at my school. What can I do? (link)
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Talk to God. Life is hard sometimes but you have to keep on keepin' on.. with faith . God will increase your faith. Just ask... he will increase your understanding too.
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I believe in the God of Abraham. The Holy Spirit is my guide , He is within you if you want Him to be. He is your guide, your light in the dark. When you are confused, when you are troubled, when you are hurt, cry to God the Father of Abraham and ask that He save you and send His Holy Spirit upon you, to guide you in Truth. And when you are not troubled, when things are good , do not forget Him who saves you, but praise Him and Thank Him for all He does and continues to make known. I read the Bible . It is my most valued belonging. You can read God's Word online http://www.biblegateway.com/. Check out the reading plans . There are other sites too that offer the Bible for free.
Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who according to His abundant mercy, has begotten us again, to a living Hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, to an inheritance incorruptible and defiled and that does not fade away, reserved in Heaven for you. 1Peter 1:3-4
By this we know love, because He laid down His life for us. And we also ought to lay down our lives for the brethren. 1John 3:16
If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. 1John 1:9
Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God (of Israel) will be with you wherever you go. 1 Joshua 1:9
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