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Are school administrators allowed to treat you like this??
17/f
I'm in a high school program, where I'm in high school and in college. I'm currently a senior in high school and a sophomore in college. Basically, this program is paid for. I finish my 2 years of high school in college, so I can graduate with my associates and my high school diploma. Like I said, everything is paid for. Books and classes. To join this program, it's a first come first serve, since there are limited number of seats.
Recently, the administrators checked every students attendance, and half the students are under contract for having 4 unexcused absences. So that means we won't be able to miss another day or have three tardies, or else we will get kicked out of the program. The way they had us check our attendance, it was like a threat. They said, "check your attendance, if you have to have the assistant principal looking for you, there will be serious consequences." So there was a rumor saying, they'll kick us out if we don't check our attendance on Friday, and Monday.
One thing that disappointed me, was that I was framed of making a fake doctor's note in a class. Two girls signed mine and my best friend's name for the sign in sheet. The assistant called my mother and said that I was in trouble, my mom and I got into an argument that day, because she didn't believe me. My best friend was proven innocent, but I was still under investigation, because their largest evidence, was my handwriting. They were comparing whoever signed my name on the sign in sheet to my forms, and my notebook. They said my hand writing changes now and then, but they still accused me for doing it, and called it 'hard-core evidence'. They also had a 'suspect' who said it was me, but she only saw them from behind. The principal asked me, "is there another asian girl that looks like you? Because we know that she's a senior, and she's asian." NOT ALL ASIANS LOOK ALIKE. How am I supposed to know?! They kept accusing me, saying that if they found out it was me, and I was lying, she'd be very disappointed. They kept saying that it was me, until I cried. So they called a crisis counselor for me to talk to, and the principal said, "this girl is currently under investigation right now, and apparently she's saying she's innocent. She has a lot of things going on at home other than at school, would you mind if I send one of my students down there to see you?" It was ridiculous. My name was under suspects for a week, until my boyfriend and his friend helped me clear my name. It was a girl, that had blonde hair, and looked nothing like me. I have black hair. They called my best friend's parents and apologized, but they never apologized to my mom. They just told me, thanks for cooperating. That's it. I was so angry and offended.
We have monthly meetings, senior meetings, juniors have them too. But our recent senior meeting, one advisor had college administrators come in to help us. I'll admit, some people were being loud, but there are people who wasn't talking. After the administrators left, the advisor said, "This is the first time I'm going to say this, I am embarrassed... I am embarrassed of being part of the RCHS. This is the worst and rudest class that I have ever seen. The college administrators came down here in the goodness of their hearts to help us, but you were being rude. I'm sorry for those who hasn't spoken, that you guys are hearing this. But I am embarrassed to be part of the RCHS right now."
I didn't think that school administrators were supposed to act this way, but so far... I don't recommend this program to anybody. I don't think anybody will. It's full of stress. They made us take 27 credit hours last semester. Many seniors had mental breakdowns, especially me.
Are administrators supposed to or allowed to do this?? It's not a private school, it's public.
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Yes. They are allowed to do this. In fact, they've been pretty clear. They are have a responsibility to ensure the reputation of a full-ride, advanced programs.
They were rude with the fake signatures, and it's understandable their comments offended you, but they were within their rights as administrators. It was unkind of them not to apologize... unfortunately there is no law against rudeness.
It was kind and right of them to ensure you saw a crisis counselor when you became upset. It was good and right of them to hold off on any punishment until all the information was in. It was good and right of them thank you for cooperating.
Everything you have shared here falls into rude or unkind but also legitimate actions on the part of the school administrators. The truth of the universe is, you are going to have other rude or unkind bosses and co-workers in your life. It sucks, but there is no "They can't act this way!" people can get away with a lot of rudeness. Kindness can only be a rule in kindergarten class. As an adult there is only "It sucks they act this way. Maybe I should find a place where people suck less."
If you think it would help, you might consider talking to the crisis counselor about how you were treated, and what you might do to bring your concerns to the administrations, but that is what they are: concerns. You think they could have handled this better, and that's perfectly fair, it's just a matter of finding a respectful way to tell them so.
You've definitely got a lot going on in your life. Talking a counselor a bit more might be a good idea for a lot of reasons, not just troubles with the administration. Personally, I feel you are over-reacting to what has happened here because you stressed to the extreme and loosing your ability to really take a step back and see things calmly. It's not that the administration behaved perfectly - they didn't - but your reaction to what they did is over the top. That's okay. It happens to the best of people sometimes, but you need to get a handle on it, and a counselor is a good place to start.
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