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So Suicide again
I thinking about suicide even though I really want the help. My mother and her spouse is REALLY sleeping on this situation like what do I have to do to prove to them that I am not playing. Do I really have to commit suicide for them to get the picture that I am serious because before long its definitely going to happen and in the end they are going to think its there fault and I ma not going to be here to tell then that its not. . . please help!
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How well have you expressed yourself in the past? Do your parents know how you feel, your current situations and problems? You cant expect them to react in the most appropriate manner if you dont give them the reality of the situation.
Your parents obviously dont see this as something that needs immediate action. They are probably either misinformed or think its a hormonal teenage phase or over dramatisation. I dont think they know the severity of the situation.
In order for them to help you you have to be honest with them. Sit them down and let them know from the beginning that you want to have a serious conversation with them and that you need for them to listen to what youre trying to tell them. Make them aware of your feelings, your pattern of thought, impulses and urges as well as anything else that may be a factor in this. Ask them to take you to the GP who can assess whether you should be referred to professional services or not.
You must be firm and insistent about this and people need all of the facts in order to better help you. They need to know that something really is wrong here and that youre genuinely reaching out for help. Even if they dont quite grasp the situation (and many parents dont) continue to encourage them to take you to speak to someone about this and get down to the bottom of things.
Even with all the knowledge out there today there are still severely under educated people on the subject of mental ill health. No one ever understands like a person experiencing it but they can understand to an extent so try to help them to do that. Your GP will be able to refer you to a professional - usually a psychiatrist - who can do an evaluation and discuss with you their thoughts and opinions as well as the best course of action to take.
Its an extremely positive sign that you are asking for help so hold onto that and get this sorted before it escalates.
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Suicide is the most selfish thing a person can do. Committing suicide would only prove that you are every bit as selfish as your parents are acting right now. If you haven't already, sit down with your mother and her husband and talk with them. Tell them how you feel. Do it in a time of peace, when nothing is going on and things are quiet and normal, not when you are already fighting and screaming. Simply approach them and calmly say "Mom, I have something really serious that I need to tell you..." Write it down and just read it to them if you think it will help you say everything you want to say without breaking down. The important thing is that you find a way to appropriately express how you feel. My instinct is that you use suicide as a threat when you are emotional or fighting with them, which causes them to think you are not being serious and just reacting in anger. The way to get them to believe you is not to yell louder, but go in the complete opposite direction and tell them peacefully and reasonably. When they see that you are not being emotional or crazy and are simply giving them information about how you're feeling, they'll be more inclined to take you seriously. If that doesn't work, google local suicide hotlines and websites. There are many free resources out there available to young people who feel they are at the end of their rope. Good luck.
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