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i just want to die people will be better off with out me
i just cant take any more of this life... i have lost my wife,i.e she left me. it kills me ever time i see her when i pick up my kids.. nd when i have to take them back to her.....i love her nd my kids so much but i know its just going to kill me that day she meets someone...i know it will hurt them but in time they will be ok
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Listen, i know you are going through probably one of the roughest times in your life. But stop and think, time heals pain. and everything is going to get worse before it gets better, but in the end everything is going to be okay-maybe even great. everything happens for a reason. Do not leave Earth for a mishap like that. You wouldnt want your kids to be hurting more than they already are do you? Divorces arent only stressful for the couple but lays lots of stress on the kids. for example when new people come into the house. the thought that somethings wrong. the very very last thing they need is another roll of stress to get dealt to them. Just stay calm, and remember god is with you for the best reason. he brought you on this earth for a reason- dont destroy it. you have kids who love you more than anything. Dont destroy what hope they still have.
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The first thing I want to give you is the number to the National Suicide Hotline, which is
1-800-SUICIDE 1-800-273-TALK
1-800-784-2433 1-800-273-8255
Here is also a web-site with more listings
[Link](Mouse over link to see full location).
I know that you are in a lot of pain right now. I can't promise that your wife won't eventually move on and find another husband, but I can tell you that your children will never be able to have another father. Your the only one they have and if something happend to you, they won't get over it. In their hearts you are not replaceable and their love for you will always be with you.There is nothing more greater than the love of a child and there is no greater blessing than our children. They are the reason you wrote today and they are the reason that you will move forward from this and heal. And at this very moment, that is ALL that matter's. Your strong and you will make it through this and your children will help you do this, as well as all the love and energy sent from all the people reading your post right now. Your not alone and you have a wonderful future ahead. One day this storm will pass and you will see it, but until then, take it day by day and get the help you need and your children deserve. They need their daddy, they need you.
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this is probably the least responsible thing you can do. yeah, you feel bad now, but what about your kids? how do you think they're going to take the news that daddy has died, let alone killed himself? you said that they'll be okay in time, but guess what? you are wrong. children never move on from the death of one of their parents. one of my friend's father killed himself seven years ago and she still gets upset when we talk about suicide in school.
you're a grownup, you need to stop thinking about yourself and whats best for everyone else. your wife leaving you is very tough, yes, but this is something you'll actually be able to move on from, if you let yourself. the only thing standing in the way of you being happy is you. love never dies. but a broken heart can be fixed.
think for a second, what if one of your kids was planning to end their life, would you let them? would you be perfectly okay with them grabbing a gun and putting it to their head? of course not! i don't know you, but i know you're a good father. family doesn't let family do something drastic like that. i'm not saying to tell your kids that you're contemplating suicide, but tell them that you're sad. tell them you miss mommy and just need a little bit of time and help to get over her. try dating. get a hobby. maybe a new job. anything it takes for a change in your horizon. it will get better, i promise. death does not mean happiness.
take care.
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