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This guy I am seeing isn't ready for a relationship, but he really likes me
To start off, I am a 21 year old male.
So I started talking to this guy about a week ago and we went out on our first date a few days back and had a great time. We really clicked and expressed to each other that we really liked each other. I stayed with him that night since he does live about an hour to an hour and 30 minutes away from me. We didn't have sex or anything but we did cuddle and kiss. On the second date, which was 2 days ago, he wanted to introduce me to all his friends so we hung out with them for a while then we went back to his house and watched some movies while laying in bed. Once again, we didn't have sex but we did have more aggressive kissing and we were touching each other below the waist, but nothing close to sex and neither one of us tried to push farther than that. I stayed with him that night again and we fell asleep in each others arms.
The next morning when we got up he wanted me to go run some errands with him, then we hung out at his friend's house, and then I had to leave to go to work. He gave me a huge and kiss and held on to me for what seemed like forever, gave me a big smile and told me to drive safe. Once I got home I sent him a text telling him I had a great time and we should go out again soon. About an hour later he replied to my text saying he had a good time too but that he didn't think he was ready for a relationship. I asked him if I had done anything to rub him the wrong way or anything and he said it wasn't me, he just didn't think he was ready. I asked if he still wanted to hang out and he said he liked me and I was really cool but he didn't think hanging out was a good idea. I sent him a text back the next day telling him I really liked him and that whatever he decides I respect, but that I just needed to tell him how I feel. He told me it wasn't me, he just isn't ready for a relationship. It really struck me as strange because I thought we really hit it off and even his friend told me that he really liked me.
So I guess my question is what should I do? I really like this guy a lot and according to him and his friends he really likes me. I know he got out of a relationship about 3 months ago so it very well may be he isn't ready, or maybe we were moving too fast. He told me he didn't want to move too fast and I told him if at any point he was uncomfortable or felt nervous just to let me know, but he always said he was fine and enjoyed everything. I really want to pursue something with him because I felt a great connection with him. So what should I do? And should I take what he told me for face value? I'm honestly willing to wait for him because I haven't met a guy like him in a really long time.
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Then wait. He's not ready for a relationship. He told you several times. In this post alone you mentioned it 4 times. I think he's been pretty clear. If you press him or contact him too much, you'll turn him off and push him away by seeming desperate. If you're willing to wait, back off, live your life, and give him some time. If you two truly hit it off, he'll contact you when he's ready. Good luck.
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He's told you he doesn't want a relationship and that he thinks hanging out is a bad idea so there isn't much else you can do. He's been really fair and honest with you and if you keep trying to pursue him when he's told you he isn't interested you will just push him further away. It's disappointing but unfortunately that's the way life goes sometimes.
Leave him alone and let him come to you if he wants to. Maybe he will decide he wants to give things a go but don't count on it. As for 'waiting for him', be careful, you could miss out on a great relationship with someone else.
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