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hey, you answered a Q for me. help me again?
(paranoid, is she cheating? am i wasting my time?) i wanted to thank you for your advice. but i...i mean why cant i help her? im a very loyal person. and its hard for me to let go. i want to make it work. weve spent 2 years together. i dont want to let her go. doesnt she deserve forgiveness?
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My friend, let explain something: You can't force forgiveness on someone... they have to want it. If you forgive her for something she has NO intention of stopping doing, then what is the point?
I know it is hard to grasp right now because love is not only blind, bur stupid as well, but if she loved you and wanted to be with you, she wouldn't cheat on you over and over AND OVER again.
I know YOU want to make it work, I do, and I understand this better than you know, but it takes two people who BOTH want to make it work.
Finally, to answer the question, you can't help her because she doesn't want help. If she came to you, told you that she was attending sexaholics anonymous, and seeing a therapist to figure out why she is doing this... then there would be the SMALLEST glimmer of hope.
I am sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but I know from experience that some people's whole being is all about cheating. It is a mental problem. It needs serious help. I forgave a woman for thing that everyone else thought I was stupid for letting go of... because I wanted to help her. Guess what happened? Yep, she broke my heart.
Please let her go before you end up with herpes, HPV, HIV or something else there is no cure for.
Forgive her and let out of your life.
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