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Do you ever feel like you're missing out when you move from place to place?
I've lived in London & Coventry in the UK (6 years), and in New Jersey (10 years). And my dad once was offered a job offer (a high paying job as a chemical engineer) in Munich, Germany, but turned it down. I live in Dallas, Texas now (1 year), and it's very boring here and I feel different from most people.. I was born in London so I'm the most nostalgic about it. When I'm older there's no doubt that I want to move back to the UK. But then I just think of all the possibilities of how my life could have been different.. I think I would have enjoyed the UK a lot more. Before we moved to America I was so excited and then i got homesick in like 2 weeks. But then I also imagine how things could have been if we moved to Munich.. which is a very beautiful city. Or if we even moved to New York City because my mom used to be a IT person and all the jobs were in the city.
How do I stop thinking about the past this way? its not like I change it. Or forever be dreaming about the future. I have trouble trying to stay in the present.. because I have a lot of regrets.. to be honest life has sucked since 5th grade.. I'm in 11th grade now and there's not much I'd look back on fondly.. and I just imagine how things could have been different if I lived in other places and etc.
Ugh what do I do? Its hard for me to even be on facebook cause I see everyone else always having fun with friends and my life isnt really like that at all.. I just feel jealous about it and idk why my life hasn't been like that and etc
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The grass is always greener. How do you know you wouldn't have had a crappy life somewhere else? Try to focus on the positives, I'm sure there were some good times in your childhood and that your parents loved you and wanted what was best for you.
Everyone has regrets. Everyone has things in their past they wish they could change but like you said, you can't. Moving around alot may have caused you to miss out on some stability but it also gave you the opportunity to live in different places. Most people spend their whole lives living in the same country, even the same city, but you've had the chance to see more of the world. I know you feel a connection to the UK but if you'd stayed there UK you might have spent your life wishing you'd have spent some time living in the USA. Try and think of the moving around as an advantage rather than something that has held you back.
Don't be jealous because other people have been brought up differently to you, for all you know they might envy the fact that you've been able to move around so much. Use your experiences as a way to make friends. It's unlikely many people in Dallas will have lived in the UK and they'll probably be interested in your life there so use it as a conversation topic.
You are still very young. You still have plenty of time to make friends and go wherever you want to go and your whole life to settle down and live in one place.
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