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Study Abroad Argument
i have my heart set on studying in israel for half a year after i finish high school this year. my mom is surprisingly open to it but my father is another story. he wont talk to me and keeps saying, when he does actually speak to me, that i need his permission to go when, in reality, i dont. he thinks im going for the wrong reasons like to party or something but i guess that means he doesnt really know his own daughter because i would never do something like that. i dont really know how to get him to just sit and listen to me. anyone have any suggestions?
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I know exactly how you feel. I had to convince my dad to let me study in Spain for a couple of months after high school, and then again, to study abroad in Amsterdam in college. My mom was totally open to both, but he had his reservations. Eventually he opened up to the idea, and supported me in my decisions.
My advice to you is to never yell, however strongly you feel about your desire to study abroad. You have good reason to want to study in another country- it will give you the opportunity to experience new things, meet new people, etc., and really open your eyes up to another culture and part of the world. Your dad feels you need his permission to study there because you are young, and his daughter. The fact is, you need both of your parents permission to do so, if they are supporting your time there financially. Even if you are going to pay for the travel and living expenses yourself, you definitely want to have their support. It's a good thing that your mom supports you now, since she can help convince your dad to be open to you going.
I recommend that you do your research, and tell your dad exactly what you plan to do there, where you will stay, approximately how long the trip/living expenses will be, etc., etc., reassure him that you would like to live there for some time, in order to learn new things, experience another culture, etc., and not to party. Reassure him that although a lot of young people go to Israel to party, you are not one of them. The more details you provide him, the better. Assuming you are Jewish, you can also let him know that this is a great opportunity for you to learn more about Israeli and Jewish history, culture, etc., and to reconnect with your heritage.
I remember when trying to convince my dad to support my trip to Spain, I would sometimes get emotional and defensive- which did not help in the least. What did help, was reassuring him with details, and remaining calm and level-headed. Good luck with everything!
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