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Is he really happy with his decision?
20/f
So this guy and I we work together,and we've been dating for about 3 months and well for the past 3 weeks we havent hang out...2 weeks ago was my birthday he said happy birthday to me and said sorry i wanted to do something but i feel terrible (excuse but he shouldnt feel like he had to do something you know) and the weekend before that he told me he still liked me (we went out on break together, we never do we ate and he paid for me) and the weekend of my birthday he asked me to text him to hang out after work but i didnt because i didnt want him to think that everytime hes free i could hang out and he always expects me to say yes to hang out i hate that.So fast forward 2 weeks later (we both only work on weekends) he kinda starts acting different but he still flirted with me so i was confused. There was a rumor going around work that he was bragging to people he had two options...and i heard this past weekend that he finally picked one...it wasnt me and he talked to me about it already( which he didnt). I have no idea he was also seeing another girl. He treated me like a girlfriend and i thought we were gonna go out.So I didnt hear anything from him, i wanted to address the rumor so I asked him this past sunday if we could talk and he said sure so after we were done our shift he looks at me smiles and says hey so what do you want to talk about I said i think you know what i want to talk about he laughs and says alright i think i know so we talk out front of the store and he goes alright well with the other girl i got with her like 2 or 3 times didnt think anything of it then we started hanging out (she goes to school with him) and he sighs and says she kinda gave me an ultimatium either keep getting with other girls or just her. He said remember when you asked me what were we and i said yeah he said well i said i didnt want to mess it up and stuff like that was because i was seeing that other girl too and i still wanted you too but i just didnt tell you. he then said i like you still i mean we can be friends then i said wait what does that even mean you still like me? he said its just she goes to school with me (i live at home i commute to college) shes just convenient shes there you know and your here and i said you only live 20 minutes away and he says yeah but it was a hassle not a hassle but 20 there 20 back and i get out of class late it was just too much. Then he said thats why i was trying to keep my distance and be rude to you not rude but you know...(but he wasnt until like this past weekend and he was still flirting with me) I said alright well i figured...i just wish i didnt hear it from giant first and he goes who did you hear it from and i said it dosent matter who it was but i know now. We then walk to our cars ( we walked right next to each other and we never do that, he alkways walks ahead of me)and he goes sorry i said you dont have to be sorry and he said i wanted to tell you before it happened i said wait you guys go out already he guys well it happened the other day and i said oh and walked into my car. So i had to ask him about it, he wasnt man enough to tell me, and when he says what do you want to talk about? it was like he wasnt going to tell me ever that he was going out with this girl just keep dragging it on. Its like so you still like me but you picked her because shes convenient...? And if she gave him an ultimatium that never is a good beginning to a relationship you know? So i feel like i won, and he picked the wrong girl. Im trying to get over him its hard, but im trying it stinks we still have to work together though. But i just cant help it that he still flirts with me and from the sounds of it likes me still..then is he he making the right choice by taking that ultimatium? like on the car ride back to school was he thinking i took it better then expected and maybe he made a bad choice? will he come back to me? i dont know...i was just wondering what you guys thought thanks!
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Honestly, I don't even think you should waste your time with this guy.
He sounds like a total prick. He's not honest with you, he's telling other people he picked some other chick over you, he's not willing to drive to see you, you're too much of a hassle for him, blah blah blah. This shit just keeps on dragging. So, he's totally not worth your time.
I think you should just try to get over him, which I know is going to be hard especially since you do work with him. The other girl that answered your question is totally right, flirt with other guys like it's nothing. Make him feel horribly about picking Miss Convinient! And, when he tries getting back to you, tell him you found somebody at school, and he's more convinient, haha. (Just kidding!)
I strongly believe you will find someone who you like so much better, he's just totally not worth it. Let him bang other girls behind Miss Convenient's back too, no biggie. That's a low move to make on a girl "you still like too." A guy who likes a girl does not treat her like this. Run away as fast as you can.
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so he thinks you are still into him so....i would make him no he picked the wrong girl.....do stuff to make him jealous. like flirt with a guy or talk bout how happy u are..... he'll think you are over him and want you back but he also may not be worth it so follow your heart? is he the type of guy you want to give a 2nd chance to, and might get hurt again? or are you not going to take that crap and move on...?? good luck and hope i could help
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