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Is this guy hurting me?
So , we have been seeing/dating eachother for a month so far, almost I always go to him and see hima nd spend time on buses just to get to him , and the only time he wanted to meet was in public was the first time , and everytime I went over he wanted to do physical stuff and that's it and he said later he didn't want it to look that's all he wanted, so I trusted him , a bit later after a while he says hes going to work , didn't even tell me where and he said first he's training with the guys at the base and then later doing paperwork as a job for extra money after he said he wouldn't join it ,after I asked he said oh it's just a job for more money , so then I ask him want to go to the store with me? and nothing , he said he has a thumb injury... and so later on he use to text me so much and now almost nothing , he doesn't even answer my questions , I went on his facebook and I seen he was in a relationship with some girl but he said that was from a while back... is this guy playing me? like what is going on , he never tells me things until I find out about it myself... is he just busy? or is he using me? he never responds that much we use to text like over 50 text and now its below like 20.... so and he has like 18 friends on facebook and added some new girl so maybe that's why? should I even bother getting him a gift for christmas because I really don't want to get hurt..
please help thank you!
bETTY
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Well, I'm outta touch with the current levels of pursuing being in a "relationship", but as a little known fact men have emotional needs as well. He seems like he may be one of them. He's the honeymooner/sweetheart phase guy.
This is the guy that loves the attraction and interaction with meeting new women (cuz theres just too many of course) and he'll keep up this cycle to keep the high he gets from the intros, to the meet & greets to the personal talks and VISITS (of course).. When that dies, loses interest, or find a new intromate. It happens that his current interest, becomes the on pause/backburner chick. He knows it too soon for women to consider it a serious relationship and short enough to make them consider pressing him but not without them feeling like they've become obsessive. My suggestion? Open the gates of time (a pre-selected period of time) to see if the straying actions are habitual or (depending on your own "aggressive attentiveness"...) get the confirmation you need to make a clear-cut decision.
As for the christmas gift.... I would say NO. However, if something strikes as perfect for the situation.... Pick it up. Giving it to him, is a personal deliberation.
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also , he blames everything on me , when i fuss about other girls and not trusting him..
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