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We both cheated on each other twice: should we break up?
17/f me and my boyfriend have been going out for 4 1/2 months, which is pretty long for a high school relationship. he has had alot of other relationships before, he's kind of a player, but i havent had that many. we are sexually active together which makes our relationship even closer and harder to break apart. we have both admitted to cheating on eachother twice. recently we have been fighting alot and he has changed and he is normally really sweet and nice but he is now a complete jerk all the time and he has ditched me all week from hanging out. he is not acting like himself at all. when i talk to him about it he said he was stressed but he would work on it, but nothing ever changes he is still a jerk! and i know he is a player and he talks to other girls so i wonder if he is cheating on me? i dont know if i should break up with him or not. he still says he loves me, and i still love him, but its really hard. please help me :(
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hm.. you guys have both cheated on eachother.. so there's something wrong there ,y ou guys aren't happy with eachother , the fact you have trust issues with this guy shows you dont know if you should stay in it , i think you should either leave it or stay in it , it seems you cant let go of this guy but you dont want to get hurt , and tahts frine but dont believe tat he says yhe loves you and you've been going out for so long and you guys you should know he is or isnt a player , you should talk to him about the talking to other girls you have a reason your his girlfriend and and stress? what stress? shouldn't he be telling you what hes stressed? the fact you said hes STILL key word STILL a jerk so he was a jerk before and your still dating him , what are you doing girl? and you admitted he was a player and talks to other girls , SO you said not only a jerk but a player and talking other girls and ditches you and stressed out , hmmm thats everything NOT to be in a relationship for , it's your choice hun , you shouldn't waste your time it seems, he is proabbaly missingout on something great , but dont worry theres other better guys out there!
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Hey there :)
Okay I have no doubt that you love this guy and that he loves you. But I'm afraid to say you have to face facts. There is absolutely no trust in this relationship you have both cheated for whatever reasons and now that he his acting like a jerk it has you stressing over what he may be doing. Thats not healthy in a relationship. As i'm sure you know they should be about trust openness and honesty.
These aspects don't appear to feature in your relationship.
Ask yourself am I happy?Is this really worth it or do I deserve better?
in my opinion you do.
If you strayed twice Isn't that telling you something?
Im sorry to be blunt but thats how I see it.
He is being cold and distant towards you at the moment and giving you no reason you don't deserve that.
It seems to me that this relationship is only gonna cause more stress then its worth.
I know its really hard moving on is never easy but as I say many times on here time is a healer.
Keep occupied stay strong you can do it.
Of course there will be days when all you wanna do is cry but that gets easier trust me :)
My advice is to get out before things get worse.
Find a guy who won't cheat on you,who you won't feel the need to cheat on and who treats you like an absolute princess. Sounds unrealistic but believe it or not there really are guys like that out there they just take that little bit longer to find and are often in the most unexpected places. Or right under our noses.
I really hope this helps but at the end of the day its your decision. Go with your gut. Your own instincts are almost never wrong.
Good luck & Much <3
Jess 17/f
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