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longg timee; updatee.
Well its me again about Thomas. I turned 18 on the 20th, and I was going to go clubbing and get a hotel room, drink alittle, and celebrate with Thomas, my bestfriend Erica, and whoever she decided to bring. Well, the day of my birthday, Thomas cancelled because he has a "new" job. Which has nothing to do with my birthday plans because he promised me he'd go, and we wasn't leaving ti'll 9 that night. So I went off on him& told him he ruined my birthday, and he said he didn't care. His job was more important. It was finally my 18th birthday, and his promise wasn't kept. I made more plans because I already cried on my birthday for three hours because of him; The new plans were to get a hotel room, and just have fun with erica, her guy, and riley.
Riley- He's a guy that I use to talk to last year, and we had an amazing connection. He was the first guy I actually kissed and felt a spark with. We didn't work out because he got with his ex, that left him before we started to talk. Which i understood cause they was together for a year, and I wanted him to be happy. Now him and his ex are broken up for good, and he said his feelings for me hasn't changed. Everytime I use to kiss him, he'd smile like crazy and blush. I dont know about you, but Im a believer in the horoscopes, astrology things. Im a scorpio, Thomas is a Gemini, and Riley is a Cancer. (if you don't know what that means, you could look it up.) Cancer is a Scorpio HIGHEST match, and whatnot. Well Riley came into the picture two weeks before my birthday; I told him straight up about Thomas, and the situation if he askes me back out, and he said that was fine, because things could change, and whatever. Those two weeks that I spent with Riley, made me realize how happy he truely made me. I fell hard for him the last time we talked, and I could see that it was happening again. He is so easy to talk to, and everytime he looked at me, or touched me, my heart went crazy! Well, Riley went to the hotel with me.
At 8 that night, Thomas texted me, and asked where I was at, and I told him at home, and he said well if you wanna fuckin hang, than meet me at the carwash. And I said nope. I have plans. And he called me, and I put him on speaker, cause my mom wanted to hear, and he was being a dick, calling me mean names. And Riley and Erica was listening too. Riley got pissed. He hates how guys disrespect me. I told him his words, promises, and actions don't mean anything to me anymore because they have no meaning behind them, and thomas said, "well thats cause their towards you; you should know when it comes to you i dont mean anything i say" I told him to lose my number, and just leave me alone because I am done for good.
5 minutes later. He textes me. Told me to stop being a bitch. i told him to leave me alone and lose my number, and he asked what my new plans were, and i told him not to worry about it, and he asked who all was with me, and i said not to worry about it, than he said make sure i have condoms, and i said IM not the whore, you are.
and that was it.
That night I saw a whole new light to Thomas. I realized I didn't deserve to be with someone who didn't deserve me. Riley asked me out on my birthday, and I gladly said yes. A couple of days later, Thomas called me again, and I was asleep. My 6 year old brother answered it and woke me up. Thomas was like " Im in greenbrier if you wanna hang" and I said i dont want nothing to do wtih you, leave me alone. and I hung up.
He called back 4 times, and my mom made me answer, and put him onspeaker. He told me to stop being a bitch once again, and I went off. I told him exactly how I felt, and how much anger he had built up in me because of all the lies, tears, and pain he has put me through. Than i told him to lose my number, and wen i said bye he was like kaci dont...
than i left for work. he called me 42 more times, and I didnt answer any of them. I recieved a text that said
"This is my last time trying to hang with you, if you wanna hang I need to know, or ill make plans with someone else"-No text back.
"I'll just come to your work than"- Ha, I dare you!
Well, soon enough. He showed up at my work. There was cute guys there that I knew, and I made sure thomas saw the way I interacted with them; he said "so your not guna to talk to me" and i just ignored him. I had to take the trash out, adn i was wlakin back in, and thomas goes "KACI!!!!" i ignored him, he yanked me by my arm and said i know i didnt drive all the way down here for you to fuckin ignore me, and i yanked my arm away, told him i hated him, and went back in.
Two days later, he called me at 3:00pm--thats what time i get out of school; but i was sick so I didnt go. He called me and told me he had to talk to me, and i said about..? and he goes my job. i told him that had nothing to do with me, and he said im moving to louisianna, and i wanna see you one last time, and i told him i wished him the best of luck, but i want NOTHING to do with him.He said fuck you bitch.
than texted me, and said sorry.
today he texted me; asked what i was doing, i said at the carwash, he said cool, i said k
that was it.
There is defanitely no way in hell im ever taking him back. Ive got my closure because he will never change..what do you tihnk?
its like after i pushed him away, and told him i was done, he began to chase me (calling me repeatedly, showing up at work, trying to hang)..ect
*SORRY SOO LONG!
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Wow, what a changeling. Men can be so dense!! You did the right thing, just hang in there and stand by your choice. Don't let him sweet talk you. You deserve someone who will treat you like a queen, an angel - he is the worst possible person for you to give in to right now: He's a liar.
I can make every excuse for him if I wanted. If I wanted to find a way to make it all go away I could - and so could you. That's a trap, though, don't do it. Stick to your guns and he will eventually move on to someone else. If he really cared for you, he would not have left you hanging the way he did. You're right - the moment you let go of him and he knew it, he suddenly just *had* to have you back. But don't be fooled - it's not YOU he wants - you hurt his pride, his ego, and he feels like he MUST have you back where you belong (in HIS eyes, that means hanging on to him while he goes and does whatever he wants) - don't fall for it!
I can almost guarantee what he will do now. He will pull out ALL the stops. He will tell you everything you want to hear, talk about how you and he are soul mates, meant for each other, how he always loved you, and he was just afraid. He will go on and on every chance he gets. He will say EVERYTHING that you want to hear. He will say EXACTLY what you want to hear - because he knows those things about you. All of these years he's been taking note of all the little things that can touch your heart, and now he will try to use them. He won't give up until he gets distracted or until he has you again. Once that happens - it will start all over again, but this time, you'll be expecting it - even if it is subconsciously - you'll begin to believe that you *understand* him, know him like no one else does - that no one else understands him or loves him like YOU do, and that deep down, you'll believe he really loves YOU, and not anyone else, and you'll keep believing it no matter what he says. It's a horrible trap.
Don't go there. Maybe your souls are connected, and maybe all of that is true. But take it from a woman who's BEEN there a few times: Soul mates DO exist, and each person in this world has many. Not one, but MANY. There is someone out there for you - someone you will recognize soon after meeting him, someone that fits you so perfectly that it's just magical. Someone who is honest, and caring, and trustworthy - who you can depend on. Don't settle for someone you can't trust. Don't believe a word of love or passion if it's said by someone you *know* to be a liar.
Hang in there, stick to your guns, he will move on and you'll be happier. It may be hard, but you can do it.
I'm really glad you wrote, I was actually wondering what had happened after your birthday. No matter what you decide - and in the end it wil have to be YOUR decision - remember that there's at least one person out in the world who cares what happens. I'll always respect your decisions, and will always give you my honest impressions - that I can promise. *smile* I wish you the best and truly hope to hear from you again. Good luck!
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