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boyfriend...dont know what to anymore..depressed..
im 16
hes 16
okay so some background information: we have been together for almost a year (nov. 28 it officially will be). me and him fight atleast once a day over the STUPIDEST but we ALWAYS get through it and over it. we have also been on and off during the year. im also not allowed to have a bf because of my culture :l (yes ive been hiding this for a whole year) so obv its really hard for us to see eachother i always have to lie and stuff. we also both reallly reallly do love eachother.
Problem: we recently faught lastnight over me inviting him to my friends house because she was having people over and he stayed over his friends so he could go with him and my friend called it off because she got sick so then idk he started disrespecting me by saying shutup and how he was trying to see me and we both just got mad and we havent talked last night and today and i just have anxiety and i dont know what to do anymore :'( pleaseeee help me.
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just relax. breathe. everything will be alright. my parents just got into a huge fight and i told them they both have to stop arguing and TALK. relationships are basically a teamwork. you both have to put effort into it. you both have to fix the problems/fights. you cant just leave it up to one person to fix everything. you both have to express your feelings and you both have to listen to each other.
i say you just calm down and let things cool down. my rule is 24 hours. if you have a huge fight, allow 24 hours for a cool down. that way you wont say things you dont mean. after that, talk to him about it. and i'm really stressing on the talk part. try not to yell or argue. if you notice you 2 arguing or raising your voices, calm things down and LISTEN to each other. dont interrupt and try to prove a point. try to understand what he's saying and view things from his point of view. take what he says into consideration.
its basically up to you guys. you 2 just have to talk about it and solve it. if you guys cant solve it, then maybe it wasn't meant to be. everything happens for a reason.
good luck!
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