Question Posted Wednesday November 3 2010, 1:03 am
I've been with my boyfriend for a while now, and he used to do all of these things, but now he has pretty much stopped:
no more "I wish we could live together" or "I never get tired of you"
no more talk of the future
no more I want to spend all of my time with you
no more "Can I come over?"
no more texting me sweet texts
no more saying you make me happy
no compliments at all except physical ones. unless i ask for one.
In addition, he sometimes rejects me (sexually). But he still claims he loves me. He still wants to hang out on weekends, but not during the week anymore. Sometimes I feel like he still cares, but other times but gut just feels wrong. I've brought it up with him before..and he says of course he loves me. But then his actions just don't seem to match up with his words. Does he still care about me? help!
[ Answer this question ] Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category? Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life? Bethanywren answered Wednesday November 3 2010, 5:16 pm: Over the course of a relationship a lot of things change and it's normal not to be as lovey and sweet as you were when you first met. Even though that is true it sounds like he is taking you for granted. He has been with you so long that he doesn't feel like he needs to work for you anymore. This is a very dangerous situation in relationships, and one that you need to take action with. I would advise hanging out with your friends more, making him call you first, and not being available every time he wants to hang out or talk to you. I know that this will be hard for you at first, but it will make him take a look at how's been acting, and move you up on his priority list. If he completely didn't care then he probably wouldn't be with you, but you definitely need to give him space and let him come after you or this won't get any better, and will probably get worse.
VainHollywood answered Wednesday November 3 2010, 8:19 am: He might be going through some changes within himself. Perhaps he just wants to explore other ways of spending his time, not necessarily cutting you out but cutting back. If you two are meant to be with one another, this wont be an issue. However, if he isnt showing you what you need to feel from him then you should probably move on. If he loves you he wouldnt be neglecting your needs, especially if you've mentioned it to him. [ VainHollywood's advice column | Ask VainHollywood A Question ]
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