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I want to feel special.
So, I have this boyfriend, we've been friends since I was in eighth grade. Well in my sophomore year of high school we started dating after we both had gone through break ups with out first serious relationships. Well, I'm a junior now, and him a senior, at first, I felt so connected and happy, and he really let me in and made me feel so special. But after a while, it kinda went away. He doesn't treat me as special and puts me last. He tells me he has a completely different idea of life then him, he doesn't want to let me in closer because apparently he's just gonna break it off anyway, maybe he should've told me that before. Apparently it's because his ex, made him not want to let anyone in. Well, I feel neglected, and not special, and just unimportant to him. How do I show him I am different from her? How do I get him to give me a clean slate, and make me feel special. I feel like there is a lot I can't say or do because of the way he is. I just want to know, how do I get him to open his eyes and heart to me?
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Hey there,
Yes, he definately should of told you that he doesn't see you as someone he could let in closer than just a friend/person. This just shows he wasn't intending for a close relationship once he met you. I mean, how could he treat you special and then just blow you off? He doesn't sound like he is commited anymore. If the time comes when he really doesn't care any longer, I hate to say it but you might have to break it off. Until then though..
There are a few things you could do about this: have a one on one talk with him, let him know how much you care for him, and ask if he will let you show him the real you. If he lets you, show him that you are much more special than the other girls. Take him somewhere where it is just the two of you, have a heart to heart talk, let him know you are not his ex (no one is) and that you will try your best to just make him happy (and that you hope he can make you happy too). Tell him that you can make a good difference in his life and ask if he could give you a chance, for that is all you are asking for.. a chance.
If he really does want to make this relationship work, then he will let you in a bit more and show an effort. He obviously has a good heart, for he has showed you it. He may just be in a tight spot in his life where he is worried about getting hurt again. Letting him know you won't ever hurt him will allow him to open his heart a bit more. As long as you continue to tell him that you are there for him and you only want to show him your love and be loved back, he will see you aren't asking for much. Being yourself and showing him the real you will allow him to expirience how different you are inside and out. If you show him love, he will love you back. You cannot make him change his mind about how he feels right now... you can only guide him to the right place <3
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