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mee&&thomass..again.


Question Posted Saturday October 30 2010, 3:04 pm

Yes I am, after you gave me your advice, it made me think about alot. It made me realize that I DESERVE to be with someone who is going to love me unconditionally, like I would him. I know Thomas loves me, its just I guess right now, things are a little difficult.

Yes, there is a lot going on in his life. He lost his job, he's losing his apartment, and he might lose his truck, if he cant find another job to help pay for it. He has a really big heart, and he's always had a concious of not wanting to hurt people. I can tell that he is making himself miserable by staying with her, just because he feels bad. I told him the longer he keeps her around for all the wrong reasons, the more hurt she is going to be in the end. He is just having a hard time actually breaking up with her. He said he isn't in love with her, and she's in love with him. He said that she only stays with him at night, and in the morning, they get up and go their seperate ways. I believe him. His eyes are so easy to read. Your mouth may lie, but your eyes never will. Thats why I wanted to speak with him in person. He promised me before he left that he would talk to me the next day, and he did! He kept his promise. He actually kept conversation for the most part.

No matter what happens between me and him, I know I will always care about him alittle more than any other guy. He's my first real love, and he's someone I would never claim I wasted time, or energy on. He's worth it 100%, As much as I want him to be mine forever, I know that it might not go that way, and I'm okay with that. He may turn out to be someone I don't deserve, and if thats the case, than I have to respect myself, and find someone who will be more deserving towards me.


I will really keep in touch with you. YOu have helped me get through so much. While he was here, I told him I wanted to read the things some people said about our situation, and he did. He said their right. We are a real love story, and it'll only grow from here.

So I guess in 3 weeks, I'll see how everything goes. If things don't go as plan, than I will pick myself up, and move on the best way I can.
Thank you so much for your time and effort. It truely is appreciated! God Bless You!!


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Sensaura answered Monday November 1 2010, 3:57 am:
Thank you, I can't tell you how glad and happy I am that I could help in any little way. :)

I'm going through some difficult times myself right at this point - and sometimes it helps to give BACK to someone, to focus on helping other people, to get through the hard times. It makes you feel appreciated and useful. :) I'm happy to help if I can, however I can.

I wish you the best, and I do know what you mean about loving him so very much. Its a little part of what I'm going through now. I feel like I'm sinning to even say such a thing - I love my husband with everything in me, and I couldn't ever possibly imagine life without him. He's my best friend and I really think he's my soul mate!

Still; the man I loved before; we saw each other for twelve years and it ended due to such completely complicated circumstances that wasn't my fault or his fault... it actually would be easier if I could be mad at him... a part of me will love him always. I can't even really think about never seeing or being with him again; it hurts too much; and it's been 5 years. Though I know that I won't ever be with him again; I can't. And I can't see him because I couldn't see him without wanting to be with him.

So love is complicated, and it's illogical, and it's painful sometimes. But life wouldn't be much of anything without it. *smile* I'm very happy with my husband.

Thank YOU for writing and trusting me to help, and I'll be here if you need to talk more - and when you see how things are going to go, too! God Bless you, too. *smile*

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