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Why is he giving me his number?
My ex boyfriend broke up with me around 3 months ago. Things got quite complicated between us, we had a lot of stress and whatever. I still wanted to be with him, and I expressed that. Throughout the time we split, he still text me a couple of times a week. I made it clear I didn't want to wait around for him to decide whether he wanted to get back together or not, i'd given him enough time. He disagreed with me and said "I still want you in my life" and all of that rubbish. He still told me he loved me whenever I saw him and on a number of occasions he said all he wants is to be with me, he just can't see past the last week of our relationship (when we argued constantly - bare in mind we hadn't argued at all before this) So I explained we wouldn't speak to eachother. I don't want to be friends with someone who I have a lot of feelings for. He said he was upset about that and said I was being mean. I ignored him and a week later he sent me his new phone number. I made it more than clear that I didn't want anything more to do with him so do you think he sent it to me so he gets a reaction from me? I'm now completely out of his life, whereas before I was always "there"
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I just think he's confused, I think that he broke up with you and then immediately regretted it. Because sometimes we don't really appreciate the person we are with except after they're gone, and that's exactly how he feels. When you were together, its like he didn't really see you, and he didn't care if you fought or if he hurt you, but then when you were out of his life, he suddenly realized that there is this gap and that there is something missing. If you get back together, he might change this time, and he might actually appreciate you, but at the same time, he might not, cause some people go back to their old selves once they have you back.
So the thing is, if you're sure of your feelings that you want him completely out of your life, then make it clear, do not respond to his message about that new number, and just completely ignore him, and eventually he'll gave up and stay away. But if you do like him, and obviously he still has some feelings for you and is really trying to get you back, then maybe you should give him a chance, he looks like he really loves you, its not everyday that you find someone who fights for someone like that, no matter how many times he gets rejected or you push him away.
So having him in your life or not, is up to you, your choice.
And yes, if you do respond to that message and accept his new number, then its as if your sending him a positive signal and giving him a second chance, but if you ignore it, then i think he'll get the point that you really don't want to have anything to do with him anymore.
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