Should I ignore my boyfriend for awhile to keep him wanting me?
Question Posted Wednesday October 13 2010, 5:52 am
I read in Cosmo awhile back that guys like to "chase" after girls and that if you let them think you're easy and will always be around then they're more likely to cheat or not care as much about you. My boyfriend is a pretty good guy and I don't think he'd cheat on me but I don't want to risk it. We talk like every 2 days and I see him at least 3 times a week at school. We don't really go on dates too often but like once every 2 weeks maybe we'll go to a movie or get pizza together. Should I ignore him for awhile to keep him after me? HOw long is a good time range so he still desires me?
Bethanywren answered Wednesday October 13 2010, 6:01 pm: Men like to be the ones who have to chase after you because they like feeling like the man in the relationship. If you find that you are the on making the calls first or making plans for dates, and he isn't doing any work, you may want to wait for him to call or make plans with you. You shouldn't ignore him however. Playing games and ignoring him will probably only hurt him, and get you into the situation you are trying to avoid because he will feel like you don't care about him. If you feel like you are being clingy then just wait for him to call and make plans with you, but don't worry about it other wise or you will just mess things up.
iwantthetruth answered Wednesday October 13 2010, 6:16 am: Hello.
OY! Mind games are very very dangerous. I mean, this is your boyfriend we're talking about here, and ignoring him is likely to result in hurting him. :( How would you feel if your boyfriend suddenly stopped talking to you or wanting to hang out with you?
I'm sure that what Cosmo was trying to get at is that one should not be "clingy." Don't call your boyfriend every second of every day and don't make him the center of your life. But other than that you really don't have to go out of your way to avoid him. He's a nice guy like you said and I actually think that playing mind games will increase the chances that he would cheat on you or break up with you. He likes you for who you are, so please don't change your behavior now.
And actually, I think that you see your boyfriend less than most school-age couples do, which is good and very unclingy :). Just keep balancing school, friends, and your boyfriend, and everything should be fine.
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