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How to get my boyfriend to paint with me?
I really like to paint and create art. I don't do it professionally or anything but it's just kind of like a fun hobby. I had an ex a couple of years ago who would actually come over and we would goof around and make paintings of all sorts of things together. I have really, really great memories of that.
My now-boyfriend knows I like to paint. We even bought some painting supplies together one day and I thought maybe, just maybe, he would suggest we do some canvas art together. He seems extremely disinterested in painting though.
He does comment on my art sometimes and will tell me if he likes a particular painting so I know it's not that he absolutely hates the idea of art, in general. It's just that he's never approached me with the idea of painting, too. I don't want to pressure him into doing something I find fun and he doesn't if that's the case but I do really miss painting with a partner.
What should I do?
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I suspect that every time he has done something creative in the past that an adult told him it wasn't good enough or was negative. That may be the reason he doesn't or hasn't expressed an interest in painting with you.
Tell him you don't judge and let him know that you would enjoy sharing this experience with him. If he's not into it don't force it. The fact he helped buy you supplies would suggest he wants to but just doesn't have the courage yet to try.
Ask him about bad experiences with adults be they teachers or parents even. You might find that's where a mental block exists if in fact it does. maybe all he needs is encouragement and a direct invitation.
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Tell him what you would like, or accept that he is probably NEVER going to come up with the idea of paiting with you by his lonesome.
Just tell him that you'd like him to try it. Just that you found it fun.
Painting togeather isn't like, eating dinner togeather. It's probably not something that is just going to occur to him.
But remember this:
He will probably still be disinterested in painting.
Even if he does it with you. Even if he finds it a bit fun and you guys do it from time to time. You probably aren't going to light a passionate fire within him for cavas work.
Because he is not your ex, and no matter how you bring this up he is probably going to have a bit of fear about being asked to fill your exes shoes.
And yeah, you are kinda asking for that.
Honestly, your best bet would probably be to make some art-minded friends and have painting parties to help you fill the social art making part of your life.
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