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Awkward dating :(
I recently got a boyfriend, maybe less than a week? Well, the first day, we basically talked about everything we could. Politics, religion, future, careers, family, friends, anything you can think of, but most of the topics didn't last long as he kept stopping and staring off into space, then asking me to talk to him.
It's awkward because I'm normally a reserved person who likes being alone a lot of the time so I can work on a story that I'm writing. He always wants to talk, but it's like he wants me to do most of the talking and I'm a very boring person. All I do is write, sleep, and eat... Sometimes hang out with friends.
Bascially I'm asking why our relationship is so awkward. Maybe it's just because it's how things start out? It didn't seem like that with my other relationships... Help me, please :(
16/f
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well sweetie,
maybe its just not meant to be and its probably not cause it sounds like you guys are not comfortable with eachother which can go bad in a relationship like you should have a talk with him and tell him what you feel that he is not being open with you in the way that you have to drag everything out of him instead of him talking and telling you on his own...so try that out okay :)
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I would give the relationship another week or two. Tell him a relationship is a two way thing and you feel like you are doing all the work. Encourage him to speak ask him about school how his day was. What he is doing at the weekend. TV programs he watched.
after two weeks if he isn't responding confidently then tell him the relationship doesn't seem to be gong anywhere and part. You can still be friends even see how it is being friends. You might get back together. But he might also be shy and reserved as well so encourage him more.
hope this helped
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If you dont like talking much, and he does, or he just doesn't know what to say either, ask him if he's a talker, or just continue not really making up subjects and just enjoy eachothers company.
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He's talking to you because he like you and he's fascinated with you. Even though you think you are boring, he has grown up with 99% of the female population wanting to only talk about themselves and not being self absorbed in a story they are writing. That makes you different and intriguing. I am saying this, because even this can get old. If you need time to write (I'm a writer and I know these things) then make time to do that separate than spending time with him (The truth is as writers we are also selfish so I get it.)
Sometimes as a dude, I ask girls lots of questions. I save the answers in my memory banks for later (her favorite flowers are tulips, she likes the beatles with the suits not on the drugs, she is a star wars fan, not a star trek fan etc) I can tell you that eventually he will learn the score (that you arent much of a talker-about-yourselfer...) and either make do, or leave.
The other thing is.. your 16, so if he annoys you, it's not like your married. I'm not telling you to be heartless, just that being a teenage writer is hard enough without an attention craved person trying to use your time. For what it's worth though, you may want to take that as a compliment, because if a girl told me everything she thought of religion, politics, and family... well... I'd make a choice pretty quick too.
If all else fails try to explain you are a cat person. I mean that in the sense that you are a cat. You like him well enough, but you are also aloof enough to focus on yourself and do your own thing as well. If he wants to be in the room with you when you do, he may want to pack a book because this story needs a few more paragraphs.
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