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I just wanted to point something out...
I read you answer to a question asked by a guy who wanted to do other things in bed with his girlfriend, but she didn't want vaginal sex.
Although your answer was great and informative, I just felt the need to point out that in general, girls do not lose their virginity until they are vaginally penetrated.
Really, oral sex still means you're a virgin.
Just be cautious with what you tell some people, because that particular guy could get very worried about something like that.
Sorry, I hope you don't think I'm a bitch now, because I appreciate the advice you give to people - it really is good.
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Definition of VIRGIN
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a : an unmarried woman devoted to religion b capitalized : virgo
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a : an absolutely chaste young woman b : an unmarried girl or woman
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capitalized : virgin mary
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a : a person who has not had sexual intercourse b : a person who is inexperienced in a usually specified sphere of activity <a virgin in politics>
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: a female animal that has never copulated
As you can see, there are many definitions by which a person can be determined a virgin, and the young woman I mentioned is not absolutely chaste. And the penile-vaginal intercourse definition excludes many sexual orientations and valid sexual experiences. Oral sex is sex, as is anal sex. I think it's dangerous to pretend that they're not.
I would recommend the book Virgin for further reading: [Link](Mouse over link to see full location)
It's an excellent resource for those who are confused about the nature of what virginity really is, which medically speaking (you may be interested to know), does not actually exist. At best it's a weak concept with which society tries to control women and their reproduction in a patriarchal manner by chronicling the history of their vaginas with titles such as "virgin".
And I don't think you're a bitch at all, just programmed by contemporary beliefs, like most people are, which unfortunately fetishizes virginity to the point vaginal intercourse is seen as the most valid sexual expression, and all others don't compare.
It just happens to be the most risky act, but not the most important or the most definitive. Food for thought, and thanks for reading!
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