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Why does he like to see me mad?
I'm 20 yrs old and I have been with my boyfriend and the father of our 2 children since I was 14. I love him more than words can explain. He is a great father, friend, and lover. I feel like we are perfect for each other, and just like every other healthy couple we have our disputes. He just has the tendency to push things to far.. he is a natural born instigator, and I am the type of person who does not like to get fired up or messed with & HE KNOWS THIS! It literally drives me insane and he does it EVERY SINGLE DAY! He acts like there is nothing wrong with it and I end up crying because I am a very emotional person and don't have any other way to express my anger. I don't want to break up with him because he is truly my soul mate and I DON'T want anyone else... but I just wanna be happier and not have to deal with that every single day of my life. One day soon i'm SURE I WILL SNAPP!!!
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You can't control what he does. You can control your reactions to him.
That's a fundamental truth of the universe.
Couples therapy would be a great idea for the two of you. Changing patterns and the way you fight is damn hard work - especially having spent so much time together. If your boyfriend wont go with you, go by yourself to get some tools to change the way you interact with him.
You mention in your question a few times that you are this way, and you are that way. To stay sane and together, you might have to change some of things you believe about yourself. You can ask him to change. You can take him to therapy and encourage him to change. In the end though, he might not change, which means it falls to you to find a way to keep yourself sane and to stop the responses that are hurting you.
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