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Best friend texts boyfriend behind my back. Next move...?
Okay. I'm going to try and make this brief. My bestfriend and my boyfriend have never gotten along. Ever. They claimed they never talked to one another, couldn't stand the other, all this lovely stuff. Making my life super easy. Lol,jk. So on the fourth of July, while on my boyfriends phone, I saw texts from my "bestfriend" that were incriminating to me. She'd told them things I'd done while bf and I were broken up, more than three months before then, along with more than a handful of lies. He and I hashed it out, her and I hashed it out, she promised she did it out of misplaced anger, she'd never do it again, blah blah, and I forgave her when she needed a place to stay because of home issues. WELLLLL, two days ago my boyfriend forwarded me a text from her AGAIN telling him things I'd said while I was visiting her at college. More things I thought I could confide in her. Him and I were arguing, I was angry, so the things I said we're untrue, and they're just typical things you'd say to your girlfriends when you're venting about aggravating boys. Yet she felt the need to clue him in to these rants. I also found out that they've cultivated some sort of relationship behind my back, where they text sometimes, she's called him complaining about her life, and she "drunk dialed" him on more than one occasion. Including last night. While they both told me they never talked. After she promised she'd never do this again. And here I am left looking like an idiot. My question is, what do I do. I thoroughly HATE confrontation, I'm horrible at standing my ground, sticking up for myself, etc. As evidence my my too-quick-to-forgive ignorance the first time she did this to me. Mind you, I'd at least understand this had I done something to deserve it, but I absolutely did nothing. Honestly. She texted me today asking about me visiting next weekend, and I ignored her, then my bf texted me about a half hour later saying she tried calling him, and keeps texting him to call her back. He hasn't. But I have no idea what my next step should be/how I can prevent myself from feeling bad and forgiving her. I'm disgusted with her. But she's been totally normal to me since the date on the text my boyfriend forwarded. As if she'd never do a nasty thing against me. So I'm completely clueless as to what I need to do, how to approach this in a mature but firm way, all this. Any help at all is so greatly appreciated, and I thank you so much if you've read this all. If it helps, I'm 19, bf's 21, and twoface is 18. Thanks in advance. <3
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Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
Stop talking to her. Any time she texts or calls you, just respond by sending her this picture;
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Oh, and tell your boyfriend you and her are no longer friends, so that when she tells more bullshit lies to him, he knows they're crap because you guys don't talk.
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In this situation, I would pick my boyfriend over my friend.. I would either:
A.) Stop telling her things at once, hang out with her less and less, and finally you guys will fall apart.
B.) Stop talking to her AT ALL. Never responding to her text.
You're lucky your boyfriend has stayed around through all this drama, so don't keep putting him through it. Good luck! (:
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