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In Love?
I've liked this one guy for a long time but he thinks of us like brother and sister, he knows i like him but he doesn't want to ruin our relationship. My friends say we're cute together and I want it to happen, where do i go from here?
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Hello.
I don't want to hurt your feelings by saying this, but I feel that you have already answered your own question. If he thinks of you as a sister, then it will be pretty futile to try to get him to see you differently. No matter what people or the internet may say about "ways to make a guy like you," you ultimately cannot change a person's feelings for you. Attraction works in strange ways, but it is not in your best interest to consciously attempt to find ways to create attraction where there isn't any. This will only give you hope and hurt you even more in the long term. Think about it: you've been honest about you feelings with this guy and he has been honest about his. You should be thankful that you took the risk of making your feelings known, and now you don't have to worry about "what could have been." Many girls never tell guys about how they feel and they are always longingly wondering what could have happened. You are brave for having told him. Now I think that the very difficult, but also equally brave, thing for you to do is to attempt to move on from these feelings. Perhaps distancing yourself from him a bit (not to the extreme) will help you accomplish this. Don't listen to your friends because they are only enabling this crush of yours. I understand that your friends want you to be happy, but chasing him forever will not make you happy.
I hope that some of this will resonate with you and that you will choose to move on. Either way I wish you the best.
Take care <3.
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