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***Girlfriend Problems*** Urgent Please Help :'(
My girlfriend wants to take a step back from being a relationship with me to just dating me. She says we are going to fast and she wants to slow things down or whatnot. What do I do? Do I say yes to her even though I love her so much and what she wants I dont want and hurts me so much? Or do what we both dont want and break up with her? I want to continue being in a relationship with her but apprently she doesnt please help me ASAP I have had such a bad night I didnt even go to school. BTW im 18 shes 21.
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Gah, age difference, well do what she says, be careful, give her space, and in time maybe it will evolve into a relationship again, don't break up it makes things worse, just take a step back, don't be too serious, show her you care but are not too serious, let her adjust it's bad when the relationship is out of balance as in one person wants more than the other, just go with the flow. Hope this helps.
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Ask her exactly what she means.
Does 'just dating' mean seeing each other only once or twice a week?
Does it mean no more than kissing?
Does it mean she'll accept dates with other guys?
What does it mean to her to be dating someone, but not in a relationship?
Before you can know if a 'step back' will work for you, you've got to know exactly what she means.
If she means she needs to feel less pressure to spend time on the phone or on chat with you, so she can see other friends and do homework, that's one thing. If she wants to date other people while dating you as well, that's something else. Which thing it is will help you decide if you need to break up, or if this is something you can work through together.
Go back to her with questions and a figure out what she is asking for - then you can choose what you can or can't manage.
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You NEED to ask her what she is thinking. If you can't talk to her and negotiate how this will continue, or not continue differently, then I'm not the useless one here.
If you just say yes to keep her and you'll likely be broken up for good within three months, if not three weeks, because you still wont have discovered or addressed the actual problems that are making her pull away.
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