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don't know what boyfriend does for a living
My boyfriend is 23 and in college. He lives on his own, rents two apartments, one in the city (kind of in the hood) and the other at college. He's not rich or anything, but he has enough money to get by on his own with no help from anyone. He used to be a drug dealer, but he's not anymore he tells me, and I believe him. The thing is, when I ask him what he does for a living, he says he's just a college student. I've asked him numerous times if he does something illegal, and he says no.
There's a few suspicious things about him, like he has to go to the city every weekend (although he did invite me to come along once). He is constantly selling his car and buying a new one, and always tints the windows. He has two separate phone numbers, one for "business" as he calls it, and one for friends. He was adamant about not filling out the US Census. He's very private and doesn't like sharing details of his life (although we have a lot of very intimate talks, that's just when it comes to other people).
I know he's a good guy (he goes to class, he's come to my rescue every time I've needed him, he takes care of his mom, etc) and it breaks my heart that he could be doing something that's immoral to get money (oh and I forgot to mention, he takes out loans for school, and he's on food stamps, maybe that enough money for him to get by on?). Right now, its a touchy subject with him, and I make sure I am never dependent on him, especially financially. I also avoid going to the city with him because I know that if he does something that's illegal, he does it in the city, and I don't want to be in the wrong place at the wrong time.
I've known him for nine months now. I love him, and because there's no proof that he's doing something illegal, that's why I'm still with him. This is the only weird thing about him, in regards to everything else, he's just like any other regular guy.
Any tips or advice?
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When trying to figure out if a person is being truthful, look at their actions don't listen to their words.
If seems you already know what you boyfriend is doing but you love him and seem willing to look the other way.
Here is what you need to know. Morality aside - Drug dealing is illegal. That equals dangerous. He is not only in danger of going to jail, so are you. If he is transporting drugs or weapons in his car while you are in it you can be charged, depending on the amount it could be a felony.
Since it is illegal he is not protected by the cops, which means that he needs to protect his merchandise himself. That can mean guns + violence. You have no idea how far someone is willing to follow him to hurt him, get revenge or steal from him. Staying out of the city limits may not keep you safe. If you are around him at the time you can get hurt. If he hurts someone or kills someone and the weapon used is found in the car while you are there you can be charged.
Someone could try to hurt you to hurt him. So even when you are not with him you can be a target.
Dealers are quite often users. That can lead to a whole range of problems.
It is time to tell him what you see. Ask him if he is not a dealer where is the money coming from. He might have money saved from his drug dealing days. Or he is working another illegal venture.
If he is dealing drugs it is unloving and disrespectful for him to put you in danger.You should know all the consequences of dating him and have the freedom to decide what you want to do.
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you ask me he's dealing why eles is he so secretive and has money no job on foodstamps that's the thing people do when they are hideing something put two
and two together .if he won't tell you what he's doing then you tell him you don't want know part in it .don't get caught up in his so called private life becase he might fall and its a sure thing
you don't want to fall with him .Is it worth it hell no don't let his looks and charm suck you in
Use your gut feeling its always right he might go to collage but there is more than meets the eye here how do you explain how he has two residents always getting a different car hey money don't grow on trees that's for sure and he's going to the city a lot ?hmmm suspecion at its finest do you smell a rat
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