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Too Much Intensity (boys)
So here's what I want. I want to stop caring so much about boys. I want to be that girl that doesn't get all worked up and obsessed with her highschool relationships. I just wanna have fun and date to date. I don't wanna find that "special guy"! I'm young. But I find myself falling wayyy to attached to boys. When I start to like someone, I like them a lot. For a long time. Kind of like a dog... haha. Haha I'm really loyal. And all it does is hurt me. I've been hurt very, very bad in the past. Cheated on, almost raped, and just a string of jerks. But it hasn't seemed to make me develop any kind of trust issues, or shy away form guys. I look at my bestfriend, and she's so whatever about boys and I feel like it makes them MORE attracted to her. I just wanna be able to say "who cares" to all of that, but I don't know how. My passion is cheerleadimg. I cheer about 21 hours during a seven day week... I love it. I'm also very serious about school. It seems like everything I do, I'm intense about it. Boys... I don't want to be one of them. So what can I do?? How can I just lay off?? I guess my basic question is, how can I care less? Haha that may sound bad, but its what I want. I like having a guy(s) in my life, I don't want that to go away, I just don't want to be sooo emotionally inested in every boy I like.
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I know exactly how you feel. That's why I'm choosing to answer this question. I had a best friend in high school and who still has that same kind of personality where she doesn't care what guys think of her or want a serious relationship with anyone but loves to flirt. I've learned a lot from her and through experience that you have to understand the way guys think and the fact is if they are honestly interested and care they will do something about it! They are not going to let a great girl get away & if they see you obsessing over them or other guys it's just going to turn them off most guys want a girl that's care free and have the same attitude towards them. Think about it this way what guys are you most attracted to? It's probably the ones giving you the least amount of attention or the ones who aren't so forward with their feelings. I find myself not liking the boys that I know like me. Guys like a challenge and they will go after it! So, in conclusion fill your time up with doing other things that you love and guy will come to you:) it's less stressful that way and just think of all the time you have in the world to find someone to have a serious relationship with.
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