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Bridal shower present problem
22/f
I'm a bridesmaid in my best friend's wedding in October. There are going to be 3 bridal showers (all of which I'm going to, since her maid of honour can't attend). The first was this past weekend.
I'm not a rich person, by any stretch of the imagination. She has registered at some pretty expensive stores, for expensive items, because her family and the groom's family are quite well off and she has higher-end tastes. I thought I would do something a little different for her present and make her something, as I'm fairly crafty. I'm hand trimming a set of towels for her in lace that I'm crocheting. Since it takes forever to do, it's a huge emotional investment on my part.
As I said, the first shower was this last weekend. So that I didn't come empty-handed to any of the showers, I brought the facecloths first. She opened the gift and sort of casually tossed it aside, and just a couple gifts later exclaimed over the (super-expensive) guest room towels she had registered for.
Now I'm really on edge about having to do the rest of the towels for her, because I feel like she really didn't appreciate the effort that went into them. In fact, I don't think she realized that I hadn't purchased them like that. I'm embarrassed, because I feel like she thinks I'm cheap, or that it wasn't her style and she's wondering what I was thinking. I honestly could have cried, I was so upset, because I had been really proud of my idea. I'm almost at the point where I want to just cancel on the other showers so I don't have to go through this again.
My question is, do I keep going ahead with it and complete the set (which will take me about 30-40 hours more of work), or do I bail from that plan and just try to buy her something from her registry?
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This one is a toughy! I'd go ahead and buy her something. If she's going to act like that, she probably doesn't deserve the things she's getting. PLus, if you are that good of a craftsmen, it's very hard to notice that you hand made those. so ull have to tell her. Buy her something cheap like 30 bucks from her registry like candle holders or something. invest 30 dollars, not 30 hours. especially if she's gonna be like that.
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