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upset he's helping my sister
I don't know why, I know I shouldn't feel like this. But why do I? I just got off of work, I just worked tax free weekend for about 8 hours today straight. Seeing my boyfriend's face makes me feel a lot better, when he dropped food off at my workplace, he just left since it was his friend's birthday. Then later, he told me that after he found out I was eating in the back, he wasn't going to join me anymore but now he was on his way home and stuff since he had a this morning and it didn't go away. I felt really bad, but he told me himself he was leaving right when he left me the food. Then, when I finally got done with work, I texted him that I was really tired and everything and I was on my way back to my house. I see him everyday, I was expecting to see him. But it turns out he was helping my sister move out of the house. I started feeling a bit disappointed, I start school tomorrow, I'm tired, and my coworkers got me really upset. I just wanted to see him. I feel like I was being selfish but I let him help out my sister. My sister texted me saying that his phone died and that he was with her, then she asked if that was a problem. I didn't feel the need to answer her because I know her, she's basically giving me the attitude. She always does that. If she respects me, I'll respect her. Just because she's older doesn't mean that she can disrespect me, and I still have to give her any respect. So I thought he would come back soon, so I took a nap since I was exhausted and I thought time would fly by that way. He didn't. I woke up every hour, and right now it's eleven at night. His car is still outside. My mom and my sister is still gone. Why do I feel like this? Am I being too selfish?
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Well hey that's okay , seems like you like him. Well you should trust your sister , don't let a guy get to you. Get some sleep and feel better. Your not being too selfish because you just said to help your sister out and stuff right , don't worry about it. It's a friendly act , and you'll see him other times so that evens out right , it should work out fine. I think your just being precaucious with everything and your having a bad day and that's okay. You should just relax and calm down and just be able to trust. My advice to you is your not being too selfish you just need to be able to let yourself lose , but be able to let lose ends go , so you can let you guy go , but at the same time have. Don't let your sister get to you either.
Good luck girl : )
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You are only being too selfish if you actually think he did something wrong.
It was just bad luck is all. You had a particularly bad day that you couldn't have foreseen, and he had another obligation.
You are upset with your sister over things that have nothing at all to do with him, and stressed out about the week to come, which also has nothing to do with him, and that is probably making things worse for you emotionally.
Its okay to feel bad, but I don't think its okay to get angry with him or complain about his behaviour. He sounds like he is very respectful and very available for you almost all the time. So it wouldn’t be kind or respectful to him to judge him based on this one, unluckily arranged day. There is a big difference between saying "I'm sad 'cause things worked out differently then I was hoping" and saying "WAAAAA, why didn't you call me or cancel on her?! I needed you here! I feel so shitty!"
You are perfectly entitled to the first response, and to being sad or stressed out, but the second response would be selfish and unfair. It doesn't sound to me like he deserves any anger or judgement from you. You just had a bad day. When you see him next ask for a big cuddle and tell him you had the shitiest day ever and need some care.
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