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im sick of all this
i have a friend who is a year younger than me. We have been best friends for the last 3 years. i love her to death but she's turned into such a bitch. I mean we fight about everything because she just downright rude! she got saved about 2 years ago, and now she is a christian. And i started going to church with her because i wanted to. But after a while i saw what it was doing to her. She started listening to only Christian music, she didn't watch certain movies like twilight and harry potter. And not only that, but she would pressure me into going to church. I go, but i don't feel comfortable, but pretty much all my friends I've made go there. She's been brainwashed. Well today she didn't want to watch Hot Tub time Machine with me at my house. She kept asking me if it's over and i told her it almost was, because she wanted to watch this other movie. Everything has to go her way. She was sitting with me and they were cussing and of course she was like what are you watching?? and kept making comments. And i was like you don't have to watch it. So she went to my room. And she came back and was like your still watching this? it isn't good. And i said i really don't care what you think. And she said well if you didn't then you wouldn't be telling me that. And when she said that i wanted to punch her in the face. She's soo annoying and such a bitch. She calls her self a Christian but she treats people like crap. It's not just me its to people she's really good friends with and even her younger brother. But these people that she's close with go to church with us so they just accept her but i can't. Once i was at the mall and she wanted to come, and i asked her what time she was going and first she said she doesn't k now like always and then she told me that she was going to come in 3 hours. She really wanted me to wait for me for 3 hours! but i didn't. Whenever she wants to hangout she's always wanting me to come to her house at like 10 o clock at night or just wants me to come over. I mean she's a bully pretty much. I do stand up to her. And whenever we hangout she takes forever to get ready. it's ridiculous, because sometimes i spend the night at her house and the next day i have to go to church and sometimes i don't have my car so i have to rely on her but she's still asleep and then she wakes up like 5 min before we're suppose to be there and does her makeup. There was one time when i was really hungry and she was like who cares about dinner blah blah blah. Let's workout first and i was like no so i ate a sandwich. Not only that but last weekend i didn't have my car because i didn't clean like i was suppose to, so i had to rely on her for a ride. And she made a HUGE deal. And kept bugging me saying ughh i always give you a ride which isn't true. And then later i was eating wings and me and 2 of our other friends were there and i walked out of the room to get napkins. I came back and i said out loud i don't understand this movie, and she said well maybe if you weren't eating and paying attention in this really rude way. I got mad and started telling her she's really annoying and that's why no one likes you. and she was like well leave. and i said why do you invite me if your going to be rude. We did make up but of course to her she did nothing wrong and i am getting sick of it. It's not like she's my only friend, but it's just that the other people i go to church with are sometimes really busy with their lives and i do hangout with some of them sometimes with her. and there is one girl i hangout with, but she gets busy too. And they're just too religious. and i am not condemning them for being who they are, it's just weird. I guess it doesn't matter because my best friend of 3 years is going to college soon so i won't see her that much except on weekends, but still i am getting sick of her the way she treats people. I know i can't change her and that's the way she is, but i talk to her but she'll say well your rude too, and i am but only when she is too me but she doesn't care nor will she listen to me because she thinks she can walk all over me, and i can't take it anymore. so what should i do? she's leaving on friday. any ideas?
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Being a Christian isn't about listening only to Christian music and keeping yourself from enjoying life. It's about loving God, Jesus, and the people around you.
It seems so simple, yet people have found ways to twist the bible's true messages around to justify their own selfish or prejudiced beliefs.
Anyway, being Christian isn't what's making this girl rude. She may not have any idea how her behavior affects you.
If you don't raise your voice or talk to her accusingly, telling her how you feel will be much more effective. And she'll listen to you more if you're coming from an honest, sincere place.
You catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.
Friends grow apart, especially in the high school/college years where people start figuring out who they are and what they want from life. If you tell this girl honestly and calmly how she has been making you feel, why, and what both of you can do to fix your friendship and she still gets defensive and continues her behavior, you've got to let go. Accept that the friendship is over, as tough as it's going to be at first.
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