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Bullshit . Lies . Andd Fxckked Up Friendsz'_
Here's my issue! I was in love with this guy Angel for about 3 years! We had our up and downs and I moved on a couple months ago. With his bestfriend Paulo. I was prego from Paulo but I had a miscarrige. There's a BIG problem with me and Paulo though, He HATES me! I messed everything up between us. When we were together I made lots of mistakes with Angel because I was still kind of in love with angel! Paulo told me one night "how could I be with somebody that's having sex with my homie, my bestfriend, Angels like my brother" And I couldn't answer him. I always said "Ohh, that's just an excuse you don't wanna be with me that's the truth" And we left it like that! I don't have anything for Angel anymore, I finally moved on, but now I really like Paulo, I'm not in love but I do really like him! On July 10, Me and a couple other friends got drunk, and everybody was everywhere. Like 2 weeks later, my friend Audi tells me that she had sex with Paulo that night! I started crying! Right then I stopped and said I can't be with him! How could I be with somebody that had sex with one of my friends! That's when I realized he did mean it and it wasn't just an excuse! but now I messed things up between us and I don't know what to do! how do I fix things! the truth is I can't leave him alone, I can't, I need him! I tried being with other people and I can't! I think about him 24.7! I just want him! HELP!
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You need to RUN...not walk in the opposite direction. Then you need to stop, breathe, and get a grip! None of you have any clear boundaries and until you do, your life is going to be one chaotic mess after another.
You didn't give yourself time to get over your first relationship before moving on to the second one. That was mistake number one. Then you had no appropriate boundaries in place to STOP you from sleeping with your bf's friend. Mistake number 2.
Your 2nd boyfriend also had no boundaries and slept with you...his friend's ex... a NO NO.
And now your gf also has no boundaries and slept with the guy that dumped you.
Here's the real deal. You don't sleep with your former bf's friends. You don't sleep with your gf's exes. Those are basic human DECENT rules. PERIOD. There are so many fish is the sea that breaking these rules is just ridiculous.
And the most important thing you need to do is stop being so needy that you can't function without a 'man.' Get your own life together first and THEN find a man who will bring moral character, respect, and love to the table. That's when you will see that this mess you call a life was NOT the answer.
Good luck,
Jada
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