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my lfe in a shoebox
Well I'm not sure where to begin but it seems my past is always afecting every dream every desier and hopes that I have now in the present I was always told that the past is the past and it shouldn't. Be dug up but its always there kicking me in the teeth .I'm not a bad person.in fact I would give the shirt off my back to a complete stranger but people always take advantage of my kindness when I was 16 my mother devorced my dad and I was emancipated as an adult I was living on my own since then I'm 39 now my family has always treated me like an outcast I'm with a woman now we live together as comon law I talk to her about my feelings but I get no comfort just suck it up its ok but its not ok I regret everything that has hapend to me in my past and I can't let. Go of the rejection my family has brought on me maybe its my fault maybe I got what I deseve and just have to live with it the rest of my life and to think nobody understands or even care what I go through everyday I'm still crawling to the otherside but can't. Move forward because I'm in a box and I'm sufacating in my own sorrow is there any hope for me ?
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Everyone's got some dark times of their past that, sometimes, can come back to haunt you. If you're looking at your life in a shoe box, you haven't given your self much room to grow from. Each day from now on, will take a lot of work and time to climb out of this box you've put yourself in.But you can do it, so long as you have that motivation to stand up. I think you should get out there into the real world, proceed in a hobby you've long missed or loved to do. But that's just the thing, this IS reality. Don't forget that your ALIVE, living each day. Take hold of today and suck as much life out of it as you can! This day, or the next, or the next. There should be no excuses to just get out and do something completely out of your comfort zone. Why not?! You were told not to look back, and you did. And now, you're feeling this way. See, I wouldn't ignore this, I'd actually try to sort it out. Have you tried talking to your parents? Stood up for yourself ? Would it be worth a shot? You have to ask yourself all these questions, and if you can't find the answer within yourself, get out there and do them. See- I don't know what kind of people your family claims to be, but if you find it worth your time to be accepted by them- by all means, give it a damn shot! And if they deny you, then why waste time counting lost years? It's their loss, really. I feel as though you should really focus on yourself, and try to look at the fresh start you can have for yourself. It's the steps you must take to redeem yourself, it starts with you. It's good that you realize there's something wrong in your life, it's the first step to getting better in fact! Keep looking up, there is hope so long as you believe its there. Don't give in to living any other what but how YOU want to! I hope I shed some light, and good luck to you good sir!
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Yes, everyone says the past is the past and just leave it behind, but if you actually haven't dealt with the past it affects the present. You can't move forward if you haven't learned to accept your past for what it is. I want to give some advice to you and maybe you will take it and maybe you won't, but it's been helpful to me in moving forward. I think you should go and see a therapist. Talk to someone who can view what you're feeling from all angles. Someone who can give advice and the support you are looking for. I've had a therapist for a while and it's helped me tremendously. There's this stigma surrounding seeing a therapist, but it's nice to talk to someone who is completely an outsider from your life and who may see things in a way you never even thought about. Plus they can help you realize and understand where some of your emotions stem from and sometimes it's helps you to move on. Don't give up, there's always hope.
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The problem here is probably that you just don't see people caring because you are so affected by your past. History is a great thing to learn from but not to control your life. This is something only you can change.
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