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Help me out girls please... advice..?
My girlfriend and I as of 11 months July27, are having an issue. There's this guy I CANT STAND. He's done a lot of things I can't stand him for, (they went out a long time ago for one) I know thats a stupid reason to dislike him and I guess I dont really hate him for it. It just makes me feel iffy but anyway, I was having a convo with him one day and he started calling me a "fucking retard" jokingly, I explained to him that it bothers me a lot and to please not do that because I have a 19 year old sister to whom is mentally challenged and its mean to speak of people with disabilities as a joke. After I explained all that to him he told me "get over it you big baby" and started laughing, we got in a fight and basically I want to kick his ass.. Hes always "harmlessly" trying to flirt with her. I trust her 100% I swear on my life I love her like no other. I just cant stand him. He also tried to "nibble" her neck while her and I were going out for 2 months. Is it to much for me to ask for her to just stop talking to him? I asked her not to and she keeps talking to him and he she says that im wrong for not trying to talk to him
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first off he sounds like an ass :P youu seem like a nice guy and calling someone a big baby? haha honestly if i were you i wouldnt worry he sounds like a pussy any way who dont no how to work his dick:) and everything depends on hw she reacted on the neck thing; did she laugh as if it was a joke , did she blush , or did she get pissed ? inbox me and pleas do tell me more i may have a selution for your troubles .
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ok so im a girl and ive kind of been in a situation like this before. i dont know your gf personally but from a girls point of view she might think that you would come off as controlling if you asked her not to talk to him. . . girls dont like controlling guys (usually). but that doesnt mean that this should still go on. you should calmly talk to her and tel her that it bothers you. she really should understand that you are hurt by this and that she should (on her own) stop talking to him. she might get defensive since they are friends and say "oh well you dont even trust me" then you can tell her that you trust her, you just dont trust him with her.
this is a tough situation and im sorry for that. i hope everything works out for teh best.
also i love the fact that you stick up for your sister. its an honorable thing! :)
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Hey,
No, it is not too much to ask her to stop talking to her. You two are together, not him and her, but this guy is her friend. You cannot really stop a girl from having her friends, so she should at least be able to talk to him.
When she does something as if she is in a relationship with him (letting him nibble on her, kissing, or any touching), then you should talk to her and say "I really don't appreciate when you do ______", and be serious. If she doesn't listen, tell her 'if she loves you she wouldn't be so rude to you'. If you don't want to talk to the guy because you feel hate inside, then don't. If he smartens up, try to talk to him. At least let your girl know what this guy said to you. It will help her understand how you feel about him.
If she doesn't change her act, maybe it is time to move on. Since you do really love her, keep trying to talk some sense into her (nicely, by discussing problems). Eventually she will listen; it will take time and rough patches, but it is possible <3
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