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guy cheated/drunk hook-up
18/f
So I was at a party and I seen this guy there that I havent seen in a few years. We will call him Luke. We talk a little and so on. I get really wasted and pass out. I woke back up a few hours later and went downstairs to the party. I went back up stairs to pass out again cause I was still wasted and Luke was in the room. He was drunk too. He asked if he could pass out in there too or something. I said whatever sure. So we are laying down and just talking about people from school and stuff. I asked him if he had a girlfriend and he said something like that they were on bad terms or something. He grabs my hand. Then our faces are getting closer and closer together and we start making out. Then before I knew it, my pants were off. Then he went to get a condom and came back in the room and we had sex. After that we cuddled the rest of the night and stuff. My friend comes in the room and says we have to leave and Luke is still passed out and nothing will wake him up so I left without saying bye. I texted him a little later and told him that I kinda felt bad about what had happened because he has a girlfriend. Then he texts me and asks what happened. WTF right!? I was thinking how the hell am I supposed to tell him this. So i told him and his reaction was just oh boy. Then he said that its his fault not mine and to just let it pass. So thats where the situation is now. What should I do? I want to talk to him so badly but I dont want to come off as desperate. I know im going to see him again. Thats a fact. Oh yeah, he has been dating this girl for like 3 years or so.
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I think you should do nothing. I would pretend that nothing ever happened, so that things won't be awkward. As for his girlfriend, unless she is a close friend of yours, you tell her nothing. Her boyfriend should be the one to tell her, and even though you hooked up with her boyfriend, it still doesn't give you a right to interfere in their relationship.
If you are going to hook up with him again, its your choice. If I were you, I wouldn't want anything to do with a cheater, and I would also feel pretty bad for the girlfriend to. Although I personally don't support going after taken men, I'm not exactly against it either, as long as you understand that your emotions should stay out of it, because chances are you will get hurt, or if he leaves her for you, its still not a great starting block for a relationship. (Also, once a cheater always a cheater).
You didn't describe what relationship you had with "Luke," whether you like him, he's a friend, or an ex, etc. But regardless go get tested for STD's (as you should after each sex partner).
~MAK, 19
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Hey there,
You should tell him to tell his girlfriend that: you two were pretty wasted, that he made a mistake, that he is sorry, and that he hopes she will forgive him. If he doesn't tell her, she is going to find out sooner or later. It is definately better for him to tell her straight or else she could really blow on him when she finds out from someone else or some other way.
I know you probably feel bad cause you want to do something to help. Just try what I said. She may be mad at him at first, but at least he will have been honest with her. The more likely she is to forgive him if he comes clean and tells her it will never happen again.. and the sooner he does it. The reason why he doesn't want to do anything is cuz he's a guy and guys just want to not have to deal with shit. But shit does happen, and if he tells her what I said, he may be forgiven.
If they've been dating for three years, they are obviously pretty close. Let him do the talking to his girlfriend. His honesty and love is the only thing that will help them get back on the same level <3
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