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I don't want to be a toy anymore.
I'm so tired of people seeing me as a toy, and of me letting them treat me like shit. My last bf broke up with me and told me he saw me as a doll. A small pretty girl that let him "play" whenever he wanted. And was more liked when she wasn't talking. Teachers have even told me to "rely on my looks" or "marry rich". I try hard in school... I don't know what I do that makes people see me this way... I know I'm not a naturally assertive person but is that really why I'm getting treated like this?? I don't understand... How can I get people to take me seriously? How can I get a back bone?
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Not enough real information to give you more than just a cursory, general answer.
As far as what makes people see you this way, all it really takes is above average beauty and your lack of assertiveness. I saw small thrown in there, toy has that connotation, and straight up people will often assume that those who don't speak up probably have nothing worthwhile to say.
For some basic advice, let's throw out some assertive tips.
- Speak up. Shy people often speak more quietly so as to be less of an intrusion into a situation. Speak up, make sure whatever you say is easily heard by those you're talking to.
- Straighten your shoulders. Bad posture is common, and broadcasts things about your state of mind. Shoulders back and stand or sit up straight more often. Especially when you're talking to someone.
- Look people in the eye. You can get a good read off of people and you can send your own messages of the gravity of the situation by looking someone in the eyes.
That's the best I can come up with for now. If you'd like to chat more, drop me a message, preferably with a good bit more information than you've posted thusfar. Anything you can remember, think is important, or want to express.
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look im sorry but i dont put up with that crap and neither does my girlfriend look you are just really prissy and preppy thats what they are saying he didnt take the relationship seriouisly find someone who loves you for you
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