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i know people say "follow your heart"...don't know what to do
i have a best friend who is a guy. he's actually my ex's best friend..but they're not as close now because my best friend kind of chose me over him because he agreed with me.
but anyways. ever since december i thought i had feelings for my best friend. but they're on and off.
i always help him with girl problems and i love helping him. but i have this GUT feeling about him. and a good gut feeling. i don't know what it is, if its that i care for him, or love him.
i cannOT tell him, because he's not the emotional/feeling kind of guy and i wouldn't wanna ruin anything. he HATES talking about feelings.
what could this be??? has anyone ever been in this situation..and what happened?
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Hey,
I believe what you are feeling is a crush. It could also be a caring for him feeling or a love him feeling as well.. but I also feel you don't know what to call it, for you don't want to say it is love and then mess up the relationship, you know? I am not saying if you told him you loved him it would turn out wrong, I am saying if you do feel as if you love him.. tell him slowly. Let him know you care for him, then flirt with him, then if he warms up to you, let him know you love him.
I believe what you are feeling is a sense of I really respect him, he seems well grounded, I would do anything for him, he is a great guy, and ultimately yes, you could be feeling love for him.. and not just the friendly love, relationship love. It is alright to love somebody, anybody, even if that person is your ex's best friend. There must be a reason why your ex has the name 'ex' attached to him now and if both of these guys are best friends, I am sure they will be okay with it. If you do not feel certain, maybe after you tell your guyfriend how you feel about him, talk to your ex, and then let your relationship with your guyfriend become more.
I havn't been in this situation, but my friend has. It worked out. It can work out for you too, just don't do anything unless you feel it is right. When your heart gives you a special feeling, believe me... you will know <3
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