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Older brother has issues
I have a 21 year old brother who is really worrying me. I've always know that he has huge life issues but right now I'm just finding it hard to live with him - it's getting unbearable.
He doesn't have standard issues like drug abuse/ being in a violent gang etc. It probably would be BETTER if he had big issues like that- he is just so PASSIVE.
So basically this is what's wrong- He would be happy to spend 24/7 in front of his lab top, no kidding. He spends all of his time locked in his room doing goodness knows what. He has no friends at all. He never leaves the house if he can help it. He failed senior high and never got into uni or got a job. He's spent a year in a therapy camp and two years trying to get into uni and failing. He has no hobbies or interests.
He has a really low self esteem and he's so negative- he spends so much time criticising people. He's also incredibly defensive- he can't take any form of criticism, even with ridiculously little things. Like, if I tell him to use a sharp knife to cut vegetables he'll ignore me and stubbornly spend 10x the time and effort using a blunt knife. He has such a bad temper too.
Thing are harder for him because our family is so darn isolated. We have a single mum who spends all of her time at work. We moved to a different city a about 7 years ago so live in a place with no family connections at all. Our dad is useless and we never see him because he ran away to a different country to have another family. I have a few school friends but nobody else in my family (brother and mum) does.
I don't know how long my brother can spend his life like this. I don't know how to help him but I'm one of the only people who can. Plus I live with him so it's sort of my responsibility. Have you ever heard of anybody like this before? How can he get out of this rut? He's been like this for 5 years.
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Sounds to me like hes suffering from some sort of melancholic depression. if he's not depressed than he's probably frustrated with his life and hates himself (which would explain the defensive attitude.) alot of people that are unhappy with their lives dont like other people to know they are unhappy. My best advice would be to either consult a therapist or try to talk to him (and i mean really talk to him.)
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