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Getting Married soonn
So I am getting married in a couple days and I jut wanna know if anyone has any advice for meee...THANKSS
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marriage is tough. i've never been married, but i've studied my parents' marriage and the relationships between husband and wife of my other friends. first of all, usually before you get married, you date this person for a while. now, i don't know how long you've been going out, if you guys have already moved in together, etc, but you have to get used to this person's flaws. if you've already done that, great! if not, get prepared.
stuff happens, you may find that marriage is hard because you're around this person 24/7. the first year or so is awesome because you're married, you're alone, and you have a lot of sex. or usually you do. :) later in the marriage is when things get tough. some men get put down because they feel like they'll get sick of the woman, men get bored easily. so be sure to spice things up in the bedroom once in awhile. foreplay is great, and some studies show that men really love roleplaying, like pretending to be someone else while having sex. or you could try something that you'd probably enjoy, like the whole fancy dinner, wine, rose petals, candles, etc.
money is also a huge issue. both men AND women find other funner things to spend money on besides food and bills. women usually resort to clothes, as i'm sure you know, (i'm assuming you're a woman. if you're not, i truly apologize) and men spend money in a lot of ways i'm not sure. sometimes they have gambling problems, maybe beer, cologne, shit for their cars, and other stuff that seems ridiculous to the wife. be sure to let him know that you'll save a certain amount of money for whatever you guys will like, but you'll also need to get those bills paid. otherwise, its just going to cause more stress.
men are also disgusting. they burp and fart and leave places an absolute mess. you'll probably be cleaning a lot with little help. if your man helps you with cleaning and cooking, good for you! you've found every housewife's dream. if not, well, you're not alone :)
my advice to you about all of this is to just stay strong and keep your head up. if you wish to avoid conflict, stay in communication. a marriage relys on three things; communication, trust, and sex. like i said, sex will most likely NOT be an issue for the first couple of years. after that, you'll probably slow off a little bit. also, if you have kids or plan to, make sure that both of you are spending enough time with the child(ren) and again, just stay strong. its tough, but its possible. :)
i wish you both the best of luck! and again, if you're not a woman, i'm really sorry.
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