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am i too generous?
i know this might be a weird question, but i'm just curious. i smoke, have been for almost 3 years. all of my friends smoke, as well. and we bum out cigarettes to eachother a lot, but whenever i bum out, i have a method; one for now, one for the road, so i give them two cigarettes. thats just to whomever asks me. i think giving a person one cigarette when they're jones-ing is just rude. i think two is a good number. but is that being too generous? i'd want someone to do the same with me, but i havent met anyone who has done that.
also, i'm 17, so obviously i can't buy cigarettes myself. so whenever someone buys me a pack of cigarettes, i give them gas money or if they smoke, as well, i'll buy them a pack of whatever. is that what i owe to them for their service, or is that too generous, as well?
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I understand your thinking - but I think it's best to give people what they ask for. Especially when it comes to a substance like cigarettes.
Would you give somebody two slices of pizza if they only asked for one? That would be kind of rude to make them feel obliged to eat more than they requested. Or two beers when they asked for one? That could also be rude - you don't know why it is they only asked for one, two might be too much, or longer than they want to stay.
If your friends know you're generous, they'll laugh and say "What! Not two?" and you can giggle and say "I just don't want to be a pusher! Here, have a second!"
I get where you are coming from with this - but I would also bet you are causing some people a bit more discomfort with your method than you know.
I'm not going to weigh in on what you should pay someone to pick up a pack for you. That is different depending on where you live and how risky it is to get buy a pack for a minor. If it's a riskier place to do that, then gas or a second pack is a fair deal.
Also - smoking at your age is illegal. It's a gross habit and it mucks up your brain and body. Can't answer a question like this without throwing that in: Life would be better and longer if you stopped smoking.
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You do sound rather generous but there's nothing wrong with that as long as you aren't being taken advantage of. It's up to you how generous you are, just make sure people don't exploit your generousity.
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