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How often my boyfriend wants to see me ..?
My boyfriend is very much in love with me; he makes sure I know it, also. We talk for about half an hour most nights and he sends me one or two "I love you" texts through the day. But he never makes plans to see me. For the first 6-7 months of our relationship, we saw each other strictly once a week-- granted, we were both in the same school and despite having no classes with one another, I made an effort to see him for a decent amount of time in school-- not so much the other way around.
After he left school in May as a senior, we've maintained this once a week thing. About every other week I suggest a second opportunity to chill and he either seems disinterested but obliging from the start and/or makes the hangout as short as possible. I brought this up a few weeks ago and he apologized but he hasn't done much to change. He hasn't made a plan with me in months. If he was a homebody I would understand but he goes out with his friends 4-5 nights a week.
What should I do? I'm unsure as to whether this is worth breaking off the relationship over. I love him for him but I don't think he has the responsibility to uphold this relationship, and I don't know if I want to deal with that.
Thanks. ...and sorry for the multiple postings & wrong catagories - I'm just not getting many answers =/
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I think your instincts are telling you this is not the way you want to be treated in a relationship and you deserve better. You have real feelings for him but you know you want more. Boys are always going to hang out more with their friends and that's fine because guys need guy time. But I think his time is a bit much, especially when he doesn't even make an effort to plan time with you. Listen to your gut on this one. I think you already know what you want to do, you just haven't had the guts to do it yet. My opinion is let this one go. Summer's here and you shouldn't have to spend the whole summer worrying about this. You should be enjoying yourself. Whatever you decide to do, I wish you the best of luck. Have a great summer!
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Hmm, this is an odd situation. Most guys that claim that they're "in love" tend to want to spend as much time with their girlfriend as possible. I guess I can't really say whether or not you should breakup over this, cause I don't know how strongly you feel towards him, but I know I most likely would if I was in your situation. I mean getting texts saying he loves you is always cute, but they only mean so much. And like I said, if he reallyyy loved you, he should at least want to see you just as much, if not more, than he sees his friends. I suppose all you can do is decide whether or not you truly love this guy enough to be okay with being his second option. Hope I helped :)
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