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bitter about ex
I've been dating someone for a couple of years and i know he loves me and i love him and all of that great stuff. We have a happy and mature relationship and i can definitely see a future between us. There is just one thing that i cant fully get out of my mind though... around 2 years before we met, his ex-girlfriend moved away, cheated on him and broke up with him. she basically broke his heart. they had dated in high school for a couple years before this. i know this obviously because we talked about our exes when we started seeing each other, just because i think its good to know someones dating history. he says he was depressed about it for a really long time...ive asked him about her before and he says hes over it, and he really hasnt said anything to make me think otherwise. what bothers me is that if i ever bring her up (which isnt often...i do it very casually...) he just says how much of a bitch she is and he doesnt know or care if shes doing okay or even alive (a bit dramatic?)
so yeah. usually they say that being bitter is a bad sign... if you're truly over someone you should have closure and forgiveness is your mind. but she DID cheat on him. so maybe he has a right to feel that way. i don't know. please help.
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I think you shouldn't be worried about that. I believe if he gets bitter is not because he not over but he felt disrespected by her. But by you asking may upset him because your bringing up his past. They same was you wouldn't like someone to bring up a bad memory of yours. I think you should stop worrying about because if you do say you are happy and you do see something out of your relationship then keep moving because he is with you and that is why your still together for 2 years.
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I don't think you should worry about it. If he gets upset about her, then there is a possibility that he isn't over it quite yet. Just a possibility. If he says he's over it, you should believe him. He deserves your trust.
And even if he's not completely over it, he's with you now, and he cares about you very much. Personally, I think it takes years to completely get over someone, so you have nothing to worry about. Bitterness is just part of the healing process. If he were to tell you that he still thinks about her and yadda yadda, then you should worry.
Part of it could be him just getting annoyed that you would think that he could think of anyone else but you.
I don't know him, so I don't know.
He has a right to not care about her. She cheated, and that hurts every guys ego.
I wish you two the best.
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