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I can't get my mother to understand why I wouldn't come home.
A few months ago, I decided to drop a friend of mine who I considered manipulative, condescending, and who plainly didn't deserve the title "friend". I didn't do anything mean or cowardly, I just stopped talking to her, to avoid conflict. Turns out, that's exactly what I caused. While I wasn't home and she'd come to visit my mother, she would sneak through my room to catch something to get me into trouble, or steal my things and hide them from me. Eventually, both my younger and older sister turned against me with her, and I couldn't do anything.
Still, I kept my mouth shut, wouldn't talk unless I had too, but things just became too much. I requested to my mother that she not b allowed over. She ignored me.
A short while later, the former friend, my older sister and I all got into this screaming match. Long story short, I kicked a door, this girl was behind, she threatened to call the cops on me.
Now, my mother knows of all of this, and ended up kicking me out. We have yet to talk about the situation, and the more I hear that this girl STILL comes over, the more I hurt.
I don't know how to get my mom to fully understand why I believe she did the wrong things and why she should ban this girl from her life.
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Have you tried telling her exactly what you just told us?
Tell her that it has been going on for a long time and that you hoped and figured it would kind of go away on it's own. Then tell her the whole story. You could even start by saying calmly and nicely "Mom, I really want to talk to you about "name". Can you please listen to my entire side of the story and then can we talk about it?"
Then if she starts to talk while you are explaining yourself you can Nicely say "Let me finish my story please"
I'd try that and see how it goes! Let me know.
Just remember to stay calm even if she starts yelling because once you raise your voice too it will just spiral out of control. If you keep yourself calm and composed she wont be able to get too excited because she wont have anything to work off of.
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