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Is This Normal? I Feel Blank and sad
Im turning 15, i feel envious to my friends for example : I never get into trouble & i have good grades. meanwhile my friends who sell drugs, steal & fight, have everything like a nice house, electronics, clothes,better food, girl friends, money, & happiness, I live in a krapy house, i use peoples internet, i get like 1 thing 4 christmas, the thing i have now, i got by saving money for years, i lose my Ipod wich i saved up for a year to get,,, i feel like i deserve way more & i get mad at rich selfish people & i feel like shooting bad people in the head, what have i done wrong to be given a shity life? AHGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG OMG WTF
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I am a great deal older than most of the advisers on this site, so my advice will be somewhat different from what you have received and may continue to receive from others.
Let’s see if I have this straight: You get good grades; you do not fight, sell drugs or steal. Your friends on the other hand do everything you do not do and get bad grades as well. The fact that they live in nice houses had nothing to do with what they are doing and more to do with what their parents do to earn the money to pay for the nice house and things that parents provide.
There is one thing that you are able to do that your friends are not able to do, that is to walk down the street or the halls of school without worry of when a member of Law Enforcement is going to jump out and arrest them for all the stealing and drug selling they are doing.
If you want to live for the moment and not plan for the future then go ahead, join your friends and sell drugs, steal things you do not have the money to pay for. If you do these things then remember the old adage: “If you do the crime be prepared to do the time”. Your friends may be living high right now but the will eventually be caught. If they are selling drugs in school they can be charged under Federal Law. A conviction under Federal Law comes with a long sentence and no parole. A convict under federal can win 20% time off for good behavior. That means on a 20 year sentence they do a minimum of 16 years. This is what they have to look forward too.
You on the other hand are being a law abiding citizen. You can look forward to walking the streets and hallways of school without worry. You can do long range planning such as College and wife and family and choice of employment. You will be able to travel, chose your own meals, chose where you live and work, when you sleep, eat and wake. Your friends will have these choices made for them for the next 20 years to life when they get caught. Does their life still look so appealing?
My advice, do not envy their ill gotten gains. Buckle down and make the most of the educational opportunities you are given. Find away to get a College degree; Financial aid Councilors will work with you to find grants, scholarships and student loans to get you through College. There is nothing wrong with going to a State College and there is nothing wrong with commuting to school if you live close enough. The goal is the education, how you get there is not important. Night school is also an option as is tele-College.
Don’t be envious of what your friends have. From what you have written most of what they have is ill-gotten. Your job is 2 fold: to be the best person you know how to be and to be a better person tomorrow than you are today. What this means is remain the law abiding person you are today. Do not waste today worrying about others. Use today to learn all you can and use tomorrow to learn even more.
All my working life I was in sales. Sales manager will say; “If you leave the house in the morning and return home in the evening and not sell anything you were unemployed for the day”. I never worried about selling something. What I did not sell today I would sell tomorrow. I all way said; “If I did not learn something new today I wasted the day.”
Education is the key to success. We must never stop learning if we want to succeed in today’s world. Until I retired I was always in the top 6 in my company. Why the top six? There were six regions in the company; each one had a top salesman. I was one of them; I credit my success to never being blind to learning something new.
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