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ANNOYED
I need MAJOR help. I have this "friend" and she follows me EVERYWHERE! Everytime i sign onto skype i see "HEYHEYHEYEHEYEHEYEHYEEHEY!!!" I check my phone, and i have about 20 billion messages from her. She always uses the word "WE" like "hey what are WE going to do this weekend?" I have tried EVERYTHING! but she STILL doesn't get it! The thing is.. she always always ALWAYS complains about her life and how her parents abuse her and how she cuts herself, and how she tried to commit suicide.. she SHOWED me where she cut herself.. but.. i didnt see anything
its incredibly annoying.. and im not that nice to her either. I dont know why she follows me around everywhere. HELP ME!!!
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There obviously something about you she finds desirable in a friend. That's a good thing. She is this loyal or on you all the time because there's something she likes about you.
The problem is that she has little to no social skills and her behavior and constant desire to be liked or included pisses people off rather than what she wanted.
This could be because of her family life, being depressed or any other factor. If she shows you cuts, talks of death, depression or suicide tell a teacher privately. Let them deal with that as may be more than to get you nt to ignore her.
What would I do? Cut the girl some slack and realize why she doesn't have friends and struggles. Talk to her and tell her in a constructive manner what she is doing that pisses you off and drives you and others away.
If you do that it will be doing her the ultimate favor. Maybe you will become friends and she'll learn when you or others need space. I wouldn't be mean to her but just talk it through.
If you aren't interested in seeing a friendship develop tell her why but choose your words nicely. She has nobody else and chose you as her "friend" over everybody else. Aren't you curious to find out why?
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Your friend is insecure and has low self-esteem. That makes her clingy; she depends on her friendships to give her a sense of value.
What you should not do:
Be nasty or rude to her. It would shatter her, because she's pretty fragile.
What you should do:
Let her know that you want to tone things down a little bit. You have other friends you need to spend time with, and it's not that you don't like her bunches, but she's monopolizing your time.
If she's sharing super-personal details with you, tell her that you really appreciate the fact that she feels like she can confide in you, but that you are under a lot of stress right now (you can lie about that if you need to) and you can't really help her with her problems. Suggest that she talk to a guidance counsellor about these things. Don't give her a big reaction, because she may be seeking validation through attention.
She's not exactly mentally sound. Be understanding and patient, but look out for yourself.
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