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Boyfriend vs. His friends
I have been with this boy for almost 3 years, we are both 19 & upcoming sophomores in college.
Here recently in the past year, he has made a few new friends, & i adore them compared to his old friends. They keep him out of trouble, and they are good people.
But it seems like all he ever wants to do is hang out with them. It's like i will try to make plans, and he will say that he already has plans with them. Or he will break plans with me, to hang out with them. Or we will be together, and then we will have to go hang out with his friends, & i am just to the point where I am sick of it. & all we ever do is fight about it, and he never thinks that he is doing anything wrong. I love him with everything in me, but i don't know what to do? HELP! :(
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He's putting his friends above you, which is not okay. This is a common thing to have happen when you've been dating for a long time. The guy stops being excited about having a girlfriend, and views her as a constant in his life, something he doesn't have to worry about anymore.
You have to sit down and have a good long talk with him. Let him know that you've been with him for three years, and that you feel like he's not appreciating you. You feel like his lowest priority, and that needs to change or you're going to go. (Harsh, I know, but seriously... if he loves his friends so much, why doesn't he marry them?)
If he doesn't see anything wrong with this, keep at it for as long as it takes. Tell him a million different times in different ways how you feel until he gets you.
Be prepared to follow through. Do you really want to be with someone who does this to you? If he refuses to acknowledge your complaints as legitimate, then he's not going to be a good husband or father.
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