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Why am I often attracted to guys with shaggy brown hair? Im black... etc
And its a big deal to me if they're really into music, like indie rock and stuff like I do. Haha cause most of my crushes since 2006 (6th grade) have been guys like that.. once it was a guy with shaggy blonde hair though. Now its this guy like that with brown hair.. and Im new to the town and hes practically my neighbor and Im so nervous around him! But I think we could be friends.. so I wish I didn't get this crush before even getting to know him lol
I think Im too afraid of rejection, and am afraid of commitment, and somewhat what others would think about the relationship. I've never had a boyfriend so I don't want my first one to be a dud. And I feel that my parents would kind of look down on me if I date a white person, in a way.. cause I get the feeling they seem to feel in interracial relationships people are too different to really be together. Which I think is silly. I mean they're not racist, but they have some African beliefs I guess. Well its not like the first person I date will be the one I marry anyways.. what are the odds. Bleahhh.. what do I do?
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The whole point of dating is to date around and see what is our there, Explore new things, Different people and new surroundings. If dating a white person with shaggy hair makes you happy and that is what you like then let it happen. Your happiness should be what matters to you, Not about what your parents think.
Anyone can be rejected, It doesn't have to be a matter of race. People get rejected all the time for being taller, overweight and for many other reason. No matter where you go, There are always going to be those people that are just assholes. If you do get rejected you need to realize that it is his loss and not yours. Try to start off with a friendship, Approach him the way you would with any other person a "Hey, what's up" and go from there overtime when you two become more comfortable with one another you can gradually tell him how you feel. Sometimes there are people out there that have expectations for their children some Asian families want their kids to date Asian families etc. However, You need to think about yourself and your happiness, If that means sitting down with mom and date and talking about it then let it be. Explain to them how it makes you feel and communicate. If you like your neighbor then I say go for it! :) There is nothing wrong with having a crush that is not your race.
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