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Should I continue pursuing him?
19/F
I just got out of my first year of college. I became friends with an RA in the building and we eventually turned into best friends. I immediately developed feelings. During the first few months I knew him (Oct-Dec), everyone was sure that he had a crush on me, or at least was interested. For example: we would fall asleep and cuddle with each other, he would kiss my hand (he doesn't do that with ANYONE), he would call me beautiful and compliment me all the time(again not normal, he's not very open about things like that), would want to stand by ME during football games, and over Winter Break we talked every night online from 1am-5am (literally).
He was really cute with me, but in January or so he became weird and distant with me. One night he drunkenly came in my room and started talking about hot girls and just being a jerk, and I, who was drunk as well, got hurt by this so I cried and called him an asshole and told him he had been treating me terribly. During the next week he was mad and kept asking me why I said those things, and I responded "I can't tell you". He eventually forgave me but later on that week, his best friend told me that this guy knew the whole time that I had feelings for him, and he didn't want anything. His best friends words were "he's really f***ed up right now, he needs time to figure things out. He really freaked out when he found out you liked him. He just sees you as a friend. Maybe in the future...."
That weekend we hung out again, he was drunk and I was sober. He said, "I know why you were mad, but I want you to tell me yourself." I told him I would tell him when he wasn't drunk, but he kept pushing the issue. He ended up dropping the subject and then asked me to stay the night. We cuddled again that night.
He became weird/rude again to me and my friends so we just stopped talking to him altogether. Then randomly, in early April, he started being friendly with me again. He apologized and his best friend told me that he had been going through things. I forgave him and we got close again. Just me, not my other friends (who used to be close with him). We became totally fine and started frequenting each other a lot. We also started cuddling again and falling asleep with each other. When I was leaving school to go home, he raced to the dorms (he was out, eating) just so he could say goodbye to me. And now he's been telling me that he misses me all the time, we skype a lot, and I feel like he likes me again just based on his mannerisms. Another weird thing is that he kept talking about this girl who he WASN'T interested in at all, but he would give it a chance because she TOLD him that she was interested in him. & he kept saying that last part over and over again randomly in conversation. (this girl really is all over him, she texts/ims/calls constantly even when he doesn't reply) Just thought it was weird because keep in mind I never admitted to him my feelings.
Do you think it's worth it for me to try again, or should I just move on?
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Christ girl.
Be honest. You're into him. If he's into you, you two need to work that shit out. If he isn't, you need to know so you can move on and stop hanging around him (because it's not a good idea to be around a friend you want to date as badly as you obviously do)
Sit him down. Tell him that you like him, want to date him, and if he feels the same way he needs to man up and make a move.
Something like "I like you. And I know things have been screwed up, but this is screwing me up too. If you feel the same way, come over here now and fucking kiss me. If you don't, let me know now so I can start getting over this" should work just fine.
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You may want to tell him how you feel if you are really to do that. If not & he is still acting weird & odd with you then i would move on. If he wants to talk about other girls & be like a jerk then you'd be happier to move on & start fresh.
-Elizabeth
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