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another 'i might like my best friend' problem
okay .. i'm 16/f, and my best friend is 16/m.
we met months ago and hit it off and gradually became closer; we are best friends, we love to hang out, talk, we're the first person each other texts, we love to hang out in groups together, and we basically can't get enough and i go to him for anything and vice versa. keep in mind -- this is still strictly friendship, we harmlessly flirt, it's no big deal, this is just how we were.
last night we went to a party type thing. we got dared to kiss, and him being my best friend, we were just like alright no big deal. so we kissed for 5 seconds.. and ever since, i just kept thinking about it. i didn't think anything of it for the next day or anything, we hung out and i didnt feel anything different, no emotional feelings attached, same with him..
but we were texting and talked about last night, and at first it was harmless again no emotional feelings attached, and then it got more intense.. mentioned how we could simply do it again and it wouldn't be a big deal, like on a dare again or something. suddenly my stomach began to get butterflies in them after an hour of texting.. i did NOT know where they came from.. it's been so long since i felt that, and now i'm utterly TERRIFIED of liking him. because i can not not not let our friendship go to waste.
ever since the butterflies - which began about half hour ago, currently still texting him - ive been sweating slightly and nervous, and i dont feel the same talking to him now.. i dont feel like we're just best friends, i feel the butterflies now and i feel like he's a different person..
what do i do, i can't let this friendship go to waste, i can't let things be any different.. i NEVER thought i'd feel this way. maybe i just need to sleep on it, but just in case things don't change, here i am...
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omg i have the same problem. i have even said pretty much asked the same story. i got 6 answers and all of them said that its better to try it and see what happens than to not and wonder what would have happened. i never did it and now i regret it. so pleas try it and see what happens. don't be like me who didn't. i hope i helped you out.
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Okayy...
No joke, this actually happened to me yesterday..only slightly different.
I Suggest:
1) If You Want To Be More Than Just Best Friends- You should just talk about it with him, casually bring it up. I'm 15 and so is my best friend. We dated last summer and I broke up with him because we were best friends and I thought it was awkward. But yesterday we talked about when we dated, and he asked if I missed him. I'm not the confident, out-going kind of girl..but just like the person below me I thought "I'll never know for sure where I stand with him if I think 'what if?'. So I asked him if he thought it would be weird if I said yes because I didn't want to ruin what we had. He said no, so I told him I missed him more than anything. And..he told me he felt the same way. So don't worry about it, if he truly cares about your friendship he won't let anything get in the way of it, and who knows maybe he likes you too. (:
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2) If You Want To Just Stay Friends- Just don't say anything about the kiss or even tell him about the butterflies you have in your stomach. You might just be feeling awkward because he said maybe you could kiss again. But personally, I think if you feel that you might honestly like him..you should go for it and see where it leads. Maybe he could wind up being the love of your life and you didn't know it. (:
I hope I helped..good luck! (:
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Honestly, there isn't anything you can do to stop the feelings. Feelings are feelings, and they will happen whenever the moment is right.
I understand not wanting to ruin a friendship, but it seems like you both have a really good friendship going. That's usually how some couples meet. Being best friends at first, and then getting emotions for one another happens.
The only way to actually stop these feelings is to stop talking to him, but I know you probably don't want to do that. I don't think your friendship would go to waste. Maybe talk to him about it. You said you both can talk to each other about anything. He brought up the kiss to you first, so obviously he's in the same boat.
Maybe you both will end up having a good life together. :)
Or maybe it would be simple nothing and you two be best friends forever. You never know where life is going to take you, but don't sit back and think "what if" Because then you'll have that feeling in your stomach actually wondering "what if".
Good luck to you!
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