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How can I get over shyness and talk to her?
Hello, I am very shy around girls typically. Im in highschool and I play football(Im pretty built- just to describe myself- not to act conceited). Anyway,Im very shy around girls, and cant even talk to girls. There is a girl that I have my eye on, I see her at school and in the halls (she isnt in any of my classes). Also,I see her at the gym every now and then and she walks by me twice while im lifting. I dont know if thats her way to walk or if she is giving me a signal. I have never talked to her, but I think she knows my face because I see her at school and the gym. Also, I cant stop thinking about this girl. What im asking is, should I talk to her? if so where(gym or school)? what should I say? I dont want to come of as weird although im very shy. Please help me change my life for the better.
I really appreciate it.
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How about you try approaching her but think of it as though you were saying hi to one of your friends. If you have that mentality, then you will come off to her as though you are confident and once the conversation starts, everything will flow naturally. Also, I would try talking to her at the gym being that this is something you two have in common. Good Luck
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Definitely talk to her! If you see her at the gym often then maybe do a machine or an exercise close by her while she's also working out and start a conversation with her about her work out and just keep the conversation flowing if you can't think of anything good to say then ask her questions after all you're trying to get to know her. See how the conversation between the two of you goes and then the next time you see her at the gym you'll feel more comfortable to say hello and talk to her and possibly bring up something like inviting her to your next football game or even ask for her phone number. good luck :)
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Yes I think you should talk to her, and at the gym would be best, you can say, Hey don't I see you around at school? I know that sounds lame, but if he is hoping that you'll talk to her, it won't matter what you say.
The other way to break the ice is to pay a compliment, or ask a question that would indicate that she knows something more that you do about something.
1.) you can say, hey you look really good in that color. (but sort of a "come on"
2. you could say." Hey I see you are wearing a pair of "Adidas (or whatever)" I need a new pair of sneakers and haven't made up my mind yet. would you recommend that brand?" Again I know it is kind of lame for young people, but adults use those kinds of "ice breakers" all the time.
Another way to break the ice maybe at school, is if you know she showed some guy up, or bitchy girl, you know, I mean stood up to them, you can tell her. "I though it was so cool that you stood up to that person." Or if she did well in a class and aced it. you could say. " Hey I heard you passed chemistry. Way to go! I have always had a hard time with that class"
This is "small talk" it is an art, really, and once you master it. You'll be able to use it in so many situations. If you are still nervous, try it on someone you are not attracted to romantically, and see how it works.
Here is the secret: PEOPLE LOVE TO TALK ABOUT THEMSELVES TO ANYONE WHO WILL LISTEN.
Hope this helps dear and good luck to you.
Michele
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